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Should I stick by my wife while she is in jail?
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My wife, who is also mother of my thirteen year old daughter is going to jail for one year for forgery charges. I am willing to stick by her in this situation and not leave her because I feel She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did . However, some people might feel it is wrong for me and my daughter to stick by her since she committed a crime.
Also should I allow my thirteen year old to visit her or is that a bad idea to expose to her to that environment? I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to speak. Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore" .Which would just be a stressful thing. I even heard her express a kind of joy at her mother being locked up and having to take orders from other people. While that is understandable since she did commit a crime, since her mother has shown remorse for what she did and clearly still cares for her daughter, I think eventually it needs to be put behind us. I still would like to allow my wife to be involved with her daughter's upbrining even if just by phone, I mean she was't an absent parent or anything
If I do, what should I say to her ahead of time to prepare?
Also should I allow my thirteen year old to visit her or is that a bad idea to expose to her to that environment? I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to speak. Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore" .Which would just be a stressful thing. I even heard her express a kind of joy at her mother being locked up and having to take orders from other people. While that is understandable since she did commit a crime, since her mother has shown remorse for what she did and clearly still cares for her daughter, I think eventually it needs to be put behind us. I still would like to allow my wife to be involved with her daughter's upbrining even if just by phone, I mean she was't an absent parent or anything
If I do, what should I say to her ahead of time to prepare?
Re: Should I stick by my wife while she is in jail?
I am asking because there may be drugs or some other addiction involved where she forged the check to get money to feed her habit -- if that is the case, I suggest you steer clear of her from now until she
The circumstances are very important here. Also, is this really the first time she did this, or just the first time she was caught?
I really feel bad for your daughter, this has to be really hard for her. Have you talked to her about her feelings
Oh my. Like pps suggested, more details are needed. Why did she do it? You stated that she has never been in trouble before so I'm curious as to what was going on. Where you guys having financial problems?
I had a friend who did this and was neve
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JAIL or PRISON?
Those are two very different things. My DH was in jail for a month and it is nothing like a prison. Visiting was tough to arrange but it's not like there is any danger, there are guards everywhere and usually some sort of barrier
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Prison or jail is not the end of the world. IMO, women inmates have a more difficult time as female facilities often place inmates further away from their families, inhibiting regular visitaiton, negatively impacting everyone.
<PIt sounds like you have already made your choice to stand by her. Your wife seems to be taking responsibility for her crime.
As for your daughter, 13 is a hard age and with the legal issues her mother has brought it's even more so. You shou
1. Get you daughter in counseling ASAP.
2. Consult a lawyer re: Legal Separation (you would still be married but it would protect you financially.
3. Get yourself in counseling
4. Ru
WTF - Why no update
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