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Wedding drama! WWYD?
I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding in September. This is the second time I've been a bridesmaid, but both the first wedding and my own were so drama-free that this whole thing is blowing my mind.
Without going too much into detail, the maid of honor is going crazy. The three of us (bride, MOH and me) are theoretically all really good friends. Because I managed that wedding mag in Annapolis for 2.5 years, the bride has come to me for a lot of advice -- and apparently the MOH is getting territorial. To the point that she's asked the bride not to invite me to wedding-related things, or even tell me about it (not that I really WANT to go to a flower meeting, but is there a reason you don't want me there, MOH?) Anyway, she's really alienating our friendship through all these little things, and she doesn't even realize it.
Anyway, at first, we were planning the bridal shower together -- I had a pinterest board dedicated to the shower that we looked at together, we were sharing ideas. I love entertaining, cooking, etc., but she has completely taken over the process. She decided on the theme without asking anyone else (there are two other bridesmaids), a group gift, everything -- except for the invites -- she's "allowing" me to design them (I like to design invitations on the side for friends, I've never charged them anything other than the cost of materials).
Anyway, I was planning to pay for these invites and basically take care of the whole thing. But the MOH is sending me sample designs and then taken what I give her and asking me to revise it, tweak colors, add wording, etc. In my mind, if she's asking me to do multiple versions and tweak things for her, she's now a client, and therefore, she should pay for the invites herself.
I'm really fed up with her and the whole bridal shower/bachelorette party/everything. At this point, would you just suck it up, make the changes and just pay for the invites (probably $30 or $40, not including postage, so not terribly expensive) or would you say, "OK, here's what you wanted, you can go onto Vistaprint.com, upload the design and order them," which is what I do for other friends that I do custom designs for?
This ended up being longer than I expected. I'm just so frustrated with her. I don't think she even realizes how long I have to sit in front of the computer to do these custom designs for her.
Re: Wedding drama! WWYD?
As much as it really sucks, I would do what I could to just keep the peace. If you were planning to cover the cost of the invites, then just do that and let it go even if you'd really like to claw this girl's face off. I was a bridesmaid in my SIL's we
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I'd honestly just bow out on the wedding planning parts - and/or let the bride know and she can handle it how she wants.
As for the invitations, I'd give her a deadline and just say "this is taking more time than I expected and I can't really w
I would cut this exchange off now by saying "I'll try and incorporate some of your suggestions and will send them out soon".
If she asks to see them again...then say "you need to trust me"
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