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Can I vent about my MIL please??
My MIL and FIL live around the corner from us... DUMB DUMB DUMB four years ago me! My parents live an hour and a half away. Clearly my IL's see my son more often but you would THINK they'd be sensitive enough not to rub it in my parents' faces! Nope. Over the past few months they've made comments like "oh you hold him, we can see him any time we want" or "it is so nice being able to come hold him whenever we want" or when he was in NICU "yeah we go see OUR BABY [don't get me started on that] in the NICU every night... it's a pity you aren't close enough to do that!" UGH
well at easter MIL makes a comment about his outfit and "you should see the rest of it... they decided not to put it all on today but it is adorable!" funny part is that SHE never saw it! she only heard about it!!! I feel like she is going out of her way to make them feel bad!
Then she says to me that she needs to buy a car seat for DS. I asked her why and she said because she is going to drop him off at daycare. I looked at DH like "What?!?!?!" and he said no we will be doing that. [FWIW she said this once before and we told her no] and she said "I drop off his cousins so why wouldn't I take them all?" I said "Because I can do it." to which she said that I should just drive him to her house around the corner and she will take him. If I am going to get him in the car and drive him to her house why would I not drive the extra two minutes to daycare? She even pointed out that she often sees my car in the driveway when she leaves for work ... so why would I get up early and rush around when I am clearly still at home????
Finally, we let her watch him for a few hours while we prepped for easter. She talked about it ALL day to my parents. I feel like we cannot let her watch him again because it makes her feel entitled to make these comments. She hadn't seen him in a week or two because of schedules... I MAY have told her that I moved his bedtime up to the time she gets home from work.... it is kind of true though. We start his bedtime routine at that time most nights.
There isn't much of a point to this except that I need to vent and I need people to tell me I am not crazy. So please tell me I am not crazy. DH is on the same page with me about them not driving DS to daycare daily and we both know that there may be occasions that they will have to pick him up or drop him off and we will move the car seat to their car. I am thankful that he has grandparents that love him but they have absolutely no boundaries at times! Like when he was in NICU and I hadn't seen him all day because I had to go to doctor's appointments and MIL refused to come out so they could let me in! They only let two people in at a time and I started to cry in the waiting room and told the nurse at the desk that I had to go in and told MIL she had to leave. I was furious! She had the nerve to say "you get to spend all day with him, I just wanted a few minutes" Really she's not a bad person but she feels like she has a right to him that she just does not! UGH my BP is going up just thinking about it!
Re: Can I vent about my MIL please??
Ummmm yeah- if anyone was with my son in the NICU and I couldn't get back there and their first response wasn't to profusely aplogize, well. There would be a very, VERY short list of people allowed to see him without me being present and she woul
I had my share of fun with my soon to be ex in laws...god, I love saying that! Your husband should be the one to talk to them. He should tell them (or his mom, sounds like she's the problem) that you are both so happy that DS has great gran
I don't even know how to respond to that because honestly, I would be irate at all of this. But I agree with pp about gps making in a competition. So silly.
He was... This was during a period that is a bit of a blur to me but what happened was that DH and I both arrived there and when we walked to the NICU doors they said someone was back there so only one of us could go back. I figured it was his mom and
So yeah, I probably would have been pissed about the whole nicu thing.
But I think that it's normal for grandparents to be crazy excited and effusive about their gkids. I see it with both my parents and my in laws. They both talk about her non st
Larrys- It isn't that I expect them not to be excited... I get that. But when they seem to go out of their way to point out to my parents that they can "see him any time they want" it hurts. Chances are it hurts me more than my parents but
I feel your pain totally, cause I have ILs with serious boundary issues and they live 4 hours away. My MIL pushes every button with me (not purposefully) but she does ridiculous things and is very territorial. I will defend her to the end a
I don't get why grandparents have to make it a competition either. I totally understand the excitement of the grandchild, but why do they compare? We get jealousy if one hears that the other did something fun with her. I don't get it,
way to lay down the law! my mother in law was telling everyone she was taking the week off after he was born to "help me" and i told DH over my dead body. I hadn't asked for it and I didn't want it. If anyone was going to be there when I was a me
I feel like your MIL could be a character in a movie or something...she's doing all of the classic annoying/irritating things that a grandmother should not do!
And if that happened to me when DS was in the NICU I would have freaked out too.