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mmedina913 sure DROPPED something...and something BIG!!!!!!

Forgive & Forget

Hi! I just got married in March 16 and moved from Puerto Rico to Baltimore. My husband and I had been having some personal, family and friends problems so we decided to take marriage counseling. The fights had been getting out of hand because of his wild temper. He would start yelling, screaming and cursing at me I would chose to respond with the silent treatment. It got so bad that when I would put on a sexy dress -for him- he would call me a slut. But even after all this we decided to take a chance of faith and get married. Now we've moved in together and he has promised to change his temper. The problem is that we once had this fantastic- smoking hot sex life and now I don't even want to have sex. Now the only thing I think about is how he would put me down and humiliate me. He has kept his promise but I still don't feel the urge to sleep with him.

What can I do to get over this nightmare and start being the sexual person I was before?  

 

04-02-2013 at 3:40 PM
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March 16.

That is what, 2 scant weeks??? WOW...you guys had problems before the marriage and you chose to ignore them. NOT GOOD.

You do not scream or curse or yell at another person. Unacceptable: it is immaturity and a control problem. Where did you FIND this gem???

Calling you a slut and he has a character, maturity and anger issue and you married him anyway. I do not see this coming to a good end.

You have many more problems than worrying how to get a sex life back on track!

Humiliating you and calling you names is abuse.

Lose this guy in a hurry. You never should have married him. Love and a relationship is about respect and mutual admiration -- he has no respect for you whatsoever.

And abuse is a dealbreaker.

You can get this marriage annulled. In no size shape or form stay with an abuser.  Abuse need not be physical; there is such a thing as verbal and emotional abuse and that's what he is doing to you.

Promised to change his temper.

Good grief.

Your self esteem and maturity is ZERO. You settled for marrying a piece of trash and you settle for being called names and being abused.

And all you are concerned with is how to get your sex life back on track... chick, this is completely fubared UP.

Sex with this bum? I wouldn't let him touch me with the proverbial 10 foot pole! And neither should you.

Get rid of this guy STAT.

You probably haven't even gotten the marriage license back yet -- I imagine that may take a lot longer than marrying here stateside --- you were married in Puerto Rico?

Here is what you do:

Call the Puerto Rican consulate -- Baltimore probably has one; if not there, Washington DC or even New York City  --- and you explain what is going on. Make sure you say he is abusing you and you are getting the marriage annulled.

Chances are that the license may not even have been filed yet -- you might be in the clear.

If the license has not been filed, I believe you might be able to tell them to more or less stop it from being filed --- see an attorney; he can advise you on this.

To me, if a marriage license isn't filed and notorized and officially processed and released, your marriage isn't really "said and done, legally." See what an attorney will advise if that license is not legally processed and filed.

You still need to get rid of this guy. And NOW.

Get rid of him and do it now. As i said, abuse is a dealbreaker.

Why in heck did you marry somebody like this???? Better yet, why do you KNOW an azzhole like this???

And counseling for you and stat. Find out why you settled for this piece of trash and work on your self esteem.

If you self esteem and maturity are where they should be, you'd never have given him the tme of day, let alone date him or marry him.

And get your name out of your bio. Wow...ever heard of privacy???

You were probably married by a JOP or some other civil officiant --- be glad you were not married in a religious ceremony, also --- getting this marriage ended will be cut and dried. There are other channels you need to go through if you want to dissolve a marriage on the "religious side of the coin" ---- be glad the only marriage you need to dissolve is one attained via a civil ceremony.

 

04-02-2013 at 3:54 PM
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"Friends problems"???

I will bet that these problems are either one of 2 things:

This d!ck does not like you having male friends
This d!ck has his panties in a twist over who you talk to on Facebook.

He is abusive and controlling. Get rid of him, as I said.

This is a loser and a POS. The faster you get this marriage dissolved the better off you will be.
 

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