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Need help with preschooler and cat..
Hi everyone! We have a 3 1/2 year old DD and 2 cats. Both cats were adopted as adults from the shelter when DD was a baby. One of the cats (male) is a great kid cat. He loves to play with her and is super laid back. The other cat (female) has always been aloof and possibly has jealousy issues. From day 1 DD was taught to treat animals with respect and gentleness. However the female cat has never tolerated her. When DD was learning to walk she twice clawed DD on the head when she was toddling by. Since then we've worked with them to the point DD is comfortable very gently petting the female cat and the female cat generally accepts it. This morning DD was gently petting her and the cat lashed out at her and clawed her. DD was hurt and confused since she was petting her gently and doing everything we've always taught her.
At this point do you think it's best to just steer her towards avoiding the cat or is there possibly a better way to handle the situation? We always explain the cat is not mad or angry, just scared. Rehoming the cat is not an option... just looking for the most harmonious solution. We're also contemplating eventually getting a small dog but I'm worried the addition would really stress out our cat. She's been around dogs and isn't scared of them, she stands her ground. I just don't want her to feel further displacement. Unfortunately I don't know anything about her history or why she was originally surrendered. Thanks!
Re: Need help with preschooler and cat..
If you don't already have one, I'd suggest creating a quiet, "cat only" space (this can be a spare room, like an office, or basement area) where she can go that DD is never allowed. Put anything in there that makes the cat feel comfortable and happy. I
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I have 3 cats, one is elderly and lives in my bedroom. She's terrified of my toddler, so my toddler is taught to leave her alone. He's learned and is OK with that (especially since one of the cats is super friendly with him, so he still gets to play).<
I agree. Hiding place or "get away zone" for kitty is good all animals need a no touch home base. LOL and amen for Feliaway I have a diffuser and it work great I also have a spray for more focused times like thunder and strangers in the house. </
Hello I am new here. I am so glad that you said rehoming is not an option. For one you could try soft paws to go on the nails that way if she does swat or scratch it will not hurt. They are little plastic caps that go on the nails wit