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Family and religious difference - baptizing a baby
Long story short, my family is catholic, in that they go to midnight mass on Christmas eve, and they believe in baptizing babies. My sister has two sons: one "A" was baptized at "St. A's" and the other son "M" was baptized at "St. M's" - they haven't set foot in a church since baptizing the youngest 8 years ago... I don't want to follow that tradition. For some reason my mom never got around to baptizing me as a child, so I'm not "officially" Catholic, and we only went to church a handfull of times anyway (weddings/Christmases) so I don't feel Catholic either. DH is Baptist for the record, but we are both favoring a nondenominational Christian style of church.
Now that I had a baby, my sister is nagging me about when I'm going to baptize her, but other religions leave that for later... This doesn't go over too well with all of my family, mostly because that's "not how it's done" or "it's for her own good." As if I'm putting her soul in jeopardy if I don't. (sorry if I'm stepping on anyone's toes with that, but let's just agree to disagree on that point 
I think that religion is a beautiful thing no matter how you choose to practice - as long as there is true faith behind it...
Sis even "volunteered" to come in to town to have baby baptized "real quick" and she would act as the godmother... We already have a set of godparents set up, and they are doing a great job in helping us begin introducing her to Christianity. My sister on the other hand just likes the idea of the ceremony, pictures, title, etc. I can already see this becoming a thing she holds over me and uses to exclude us in the future (yeah, we have issues there). But she is all of a sudden talking about getting her sons to do their confirmation and communion, and I can't help but feel that a big part of her motivation is to "make me look bad" which is just so irritating!
How can I nicely get family to understand that we are not going to baptize our daughter? Does anyone here have experience with dealing with different religions within their families?
Re: Family and religious difference - baptizing a baby
Why not grow a spine and tell her flat out "This is our child and DH and I will raise her as we see fit, that includes her religious upbringing. We will no longer discuss this."
Then I would probably put her on a Time Out, because anyone w
The baptism of your child --- or not to baptize your child --is a de
So as a person that is involved at my church and believe what the Bible teaches, I don't think making a decision like this should be taken lightly. I think you just need to stick to your principles. Baptism is a sacrament and should not be done if you
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Your daughter can be baptized by any church and when she is an adult or older and wants to be Catholic they will recognize her baptism from another Church. Also, what is the hurry? Why is your family pushing this? Your sister needs to back off and worr
You: Sis, thanks for your concern, but we have this under control. It's really our decision to make, and we've got it covered.
Then change the subject.
TTC since September 2012
If you are attending a non-denominational church, you should look into having a baby dedication. This is what my church does. We live in an area that is strong Catholic (southern New Mexico) but DH and I are Protestant. We will definitely not be baptiz
DH was raised Catholic as well and we know we'll be facing this issue in future (his parents have a few very old-school thoughts, they even thought I was a non-Christian devil-worshipper when we first started dating and they found out I was Protestant.