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My in laws STILL hate me
Im not really new to the boards, Ive been lurking since I had my first daughter two years ago but now I really need some advice.
My husband and I have been friends since high school. We dated once right after high school and broke up after only a few months. I dated someone else after that and had a baby.
The father and I broke up before the baby ws even born.
A few months after LO was born, my husand and I got closer as friends, and eventually began dating and we got married in September.
SOOOOOOO... the problem is his parents HATE the fact that I have a daughter and that he is helping to raise her. They have never met me. They refuse to meet me. They boycotted our wedding, they have tried to turn his other family members against me.
I have tried to ignore it and hope they change their opinion and decide to give me a chance but it has gotten no better. After we got married they didnt talk to either one of us for months. recently, they began to speak to my husband again and they tell him its not too late to "fix" his mistake.
Well, now my husband and I are expecting and he told his parents they were not happy at all.
I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to just say forget them but a part of me is really hurt by the way they feel towards me. They think I trapped him into marriage because I needed a father for my baby which is false!
My husband and I are really in love and it hurts me to see them hurt him by not accepting his family.
Re: My in laws STILL hate me
I've seen this happen from the parent's side(though in my case, the girl was actually a bit**). It will literally take YEARS for them to accept you are good for your husband, if they ever accept it at all. Which will be more like resignation, not accep
This is 100% toxic. It's toxic to your life, family & marriage. This will be hanging over everything in your life and marriage until they accept you or your H cuts them off completely.
Counseling for you and your H TODAY or ASAP.
<pI'm not sure there is much you can do. I know families like this and in no shape or form would they accept a spouse for their child that has children out of marriage.
I wouldn't be phased by this. YH can talk to his parents but I doubt that
TTC since September 2012
Thanks everyone for the advice! I agree that this is something my husband is going to have to work out with his parents. I should mention that he has had problems with his parents long before I cam along.
They have always had issues