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Not the women he married
So I have been married a little over a year now, however have been with my husband for 10 years in all. When I met him I was a mess a lost soul. He was the first and only person that accepts me for who I am. I truly am blessed to have a man who stands by me through depression, anxiety, and sometimes I can get so lost in my head that I come off cold and dissent. Yet he stands by me and fights for us. We have always had to be each others defenders as both our families don't understand our connection. We have been through so much for how young we are and always seem to find ways to make each others dreams happen. Its important that you understand that he is not just my husband or even just a best friend. He is the reason I better myself, the reason I never give up.
My problem however is me. I am lost and not sure what to do with myself. I have always taken care of others and try to uplift them but can't seem to help myself. My lack of direction really is starting to take a toll. Because I feel so empty I can't always bring myself to be the wife he deserves. He has been so understanding and I know it sounds silly. I have seen therapist and have been on and off so many meds but it makes things worse because I am a drone and not the the fiery women he fell in love with. I guess my question is How can I get back to that women I use to be the one he loves? I use to be so fearless and now I worry about everything. I use to be a crusader and now I fear judgment of others. Any advice would mean the world to me. I do not want to lose the other part of my heart all because I can't get out of my own head.
Re: Not the women he married
I have done therapy from the age of 10 to 24 off and on. I am Bi polar with extream anxity. Therapy helps in the sense that I am able to express how I am feeling without making someone (my husband) feel like a bad guy, because he is a GREAT guy. I live
The drinking and drugs did help in allowing me to be bold and daring, but even before and after I kicked that habit I was like that. My therapists all say the same thing, that the different traumas I had early on created that p
It sounds like you're going through a pretty rough time. I too live with debilitating anxiety, I have since I was a child, but I manage with taking medication, and practicing meditation. I have tried everything, writing, exercise, therapy, but nothing
Thank You for your words, they really did help. I am going back to my first meeting Next week, (as I am home sick with the flu.) As for medication I have tried just about everything out there, and if they don't make me sick or cause seizures