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He No Longer Want to Have Children. . . Help
I have been married for almost 2 years to my husband and together 7 years. We started dating when we were both college students and have had a fun, adventurous, and loving relationship during that time. He recently told me he is unsure that he wants to have children, despite us always wanting them and discussing them into our future plans. I am not sure if it is b/c the majority of our friends are still younger (young to mid 20?s) and still do not have significant others or children and he does not want to give up that lifestyle. We have always agreed that we would have children 3-5 years after we got married so we could continue to travel, and have that care free life style; etc. And maybe he will change his mind but I don?t want to wait 3-4 years for him to make up his mind especially if he refuses to change it.
We are going to set some time aside within the next few weeks to discuss, but if he truly feels that way idk if I want to stay with him. I know that sounds horrible but I want to have children. I want to be prepared for our talk so your advice would be helpful.
Re: He No Longer Want to Have Children. . . Help
If he is serious and doesn't want children then you have a choice to make. Stay with him and have no child or leave him and find an H that wants child(ren).
This is hard because if one spouse doesn't want children it leaves the other with t
I would probe a bit more on the situation. You guys agreed to wait 3-5 years before starting a family and you are 2 years into that.
I would ask more questions. What has completely changed his mind about having kids? Or i
What is so horrible with not staying married to someone who does have the same life goals as you ? Having children is a major life decision and you should only have children with someone who also wants to have children.
IF you
Definately have a calm conversation with him, and don't freak out about this too much just yet. If you are somewhere in the age range of 20-27, then he may just need a couple of years.
I'm 24 (25 in June), and as much as I sometimes have the b
My H and I agreed to wait 4-5 years for kids (and we're coming up on year 4 this summer). Last summer the first of my friends had a baby and I was super excited about us joining them. We discussed it and H told me he was not ready which was fine. We di
I would set aside some time to have a serious discussion regarding where his feelings are coming from, and what he really wants (does he want to wait? Or has he already decided that kids are out of the question?). If he just needs more time, I would ag