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In-Law problems (long)
I have been having problems with my in-laws since I got engaged to my Husband but they seem to be getting worse and my husband doesn't seem to think that his family is doing anything wrong and is blaming me for all the problems. The most recent problem came around at my SIL wedding. His family has never tried to include me in anything family wise. After the ceremony they were taking pictures. His sister was barking orders at the photographer as to who would be in each picture. She said she wanted a family picture. I was not sure if that ment me or not so I waited for them to say something. No one (not even my husband) said anything about me being in the family picture. Then she had a siblings picture. Being her SIL and thinking I was family I was sure I was going to be in this one. She asked for her best friends to be in it but not me. When I mentioned this to my husband he said I was not real family so I wasn't going to be in it. I didn't understand what made me not real family. It really hurt my feelings. Now there has been a big blow up about me ruining her wedding and stuff. My husband thinks that I am making a bigger deal out of this than it is and he says I need to apologize for ruining her big day. I have nothing to apologize for.....Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do. I have tried loving his family but I can't keep putting myself in situations where I am rejected.
Re: In-Law problems (long)
Why does she think that you ruined her wedding? It's hard to understand without this piece of information.
Were other significant others/spouses included in the family/sibling picture?
Also: ?? Are you married already?
When this problem began, your then-bf should have nutted up and nipped this problem in the bud and ended it, on the spot.
What you hve there is a candyapple, not a full grown man.
As you can see, he is not going to change. And you have an
Uh, you are real family. Wtf? I mean, yes, it is SIL's desicion over who gets to be in which pictures at the wedding itself, but your husband really should have brought it up afterwards with her-and been furious with her! What, does he get pushed
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Look I wouldn't have gotten all up in arms over not being in the pictures.
I would have ever lost my mind over the you aren't really family comment.
You have an H issue, a big one. Honestly, I don't really see him changing here. He i
Since his family has suggested you ruined the wedding, I'm going to go ahead and say you probably overreacted (but please provide details for how you actually reacted to the situation). As crappy as it may have been, I would not have made a big s
I don't know. My mother's wedding photo has an ex-husband of two of her sisters in it. I know she regrets having spouses in it for that reason.
I feel that it's her wedding, let her have whoever she wants in the photos. I wouldn't be offend