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Do men hibernate?
When we were dating, my husband and i had sex three times a week.Then we moved in together and I expected it to increase but it didn't really change much. When we got married it slowed down a little eventually to the point of once every two weeks, with some spurts every now and then. We are about 18 months into our marriage. For the last month I have been trying to spice things up with lingerie and such, with some sucess. However, it would seem all of sudden my husband has come out of his shell. He has wanted to go back to some other positions that we used to do when we were dating. He has started to become more verbal and sharing his fantasies. I am enjoying it, that's for certain. I am just wondering where it's coming from.
For the longest time I had a hard time accepting the fact that I seem to have a stronger libido than him. I was convinced he must be finding it somewhere else. And as someone had posted prior media tells us that our husbands should always be after us for sex and I wasn't feeling like he was so i was worrying. We talked about it several times and he would put my fears at ease we did have a stressful year financially, his parents divorce, family illness and death so the mood wasn't always there. Which again I understand...As well it was my own insecurities getting the best of me. (Without getting to into it I realized that it was not that i wasn't trusting him, it was my own insecurities with myself feeling like I didn't deserve someone like him so he must not be as good as I think and everyone tells me he is.) Now he is out suggeesting we try new things and wanting to have some fun. I am just a little thrown as to where it's coming from. I know this sounds silly but is it the weather? Is there something to be said about the effects of spring?
Trying to do my research all I can find is articles suggesting that he must be cheating. So he is cheating if he doesn't want sex and he is cheating if he does? He tells me he loves me several times a day and that I am beautiful and how lucky he is. He never works late and is always where he says he is. So i know he is not cheating. I just wonder where this sudden spark has come from.....As I write this I think shouldn't I just be going with it instead of questoning it.
Re: Do men hibernate?
Baby Boy loved for 15 weeks, 5/31/11
Baby Girl loved for 16.5 weeks. 3/1/12
Why don't you enjoy his spring fever? Take advantage of it.
Lots of us just want to go home during the winter, put our PJs on and relax.:) Indeed it's the season thing -- I feel a lot better wh