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cant get her to orgasm..!
hello ,,
im new in this site &the only reason i joined is to answer my questions & to recieve a professional advice ..
i would like to apologize first of all if the issue im asking about is offensive , i dont know any other way for this kind of advice , im 29 years old i have never ben married ..the first time i had six was when i was 16 , sometimes i think i have enough experience in that field ..
i have met with agirl who has just turned 20 ...& i thought that sex will be amazing due to my long experience & her young age .but the fact was shocking to me .. she appears to be hard to please.. shes much much more experienced than me & she didnt orgasm too..i have tried all i have learned in the past & done for a long time , more than enough & nothing worked out & from my past knowledge i knew it wouldnt help to keep on trying & pushing her to orgasm & show her that im trying harder ..it was out first time & maybe she wasnt comfortable with me ...
all my life i felt good about sex ...& about my performance in bed ...but im afraid i wouldnt be able to please this one ..& if that was true it will end up with a breakup because i cannot keep on enjoying something my partner dosint enjoy..
i have talked with her about this & she said ..that this is normal thing to her & she dosnt reach orgasm usually ..& that it have happened for her only once or twice in her life! & she said that doctors told her that nothing is wrong with her too ..
i hope i have given you enough information & i hope that you can advice me about this ..because i really need to make things work with her ..
im avoiding sexual engagement with her for the time being ..cus i dont want to be disappointed again ...i need advice first because i dont thing she was hiding it or lying about it
Re: cant get her to orgasm..!
This is a post for the Sex and Romance board.
You really don't need to orgasm to enjoy sex. In fact, the majority of women cannot orgasm from sex alone.
Her orgasm isn't about you.
First of all, her age has nothing to do with it. Being a 20 year old female myself, I'm speaking from experience. As was mentioned earlier, orgasms aren't necessary to enjoy sex. Regardless, I can understand your frustration. Is she able to do it alone? If so, I think your best bet is to ask her what she does. Maybe even watch, if you two are into that. If she can't even do it alone, there may be an underlying cause. Maybe physical, maybe emotional, maybe she just hasn't gotten there yet. For me, being comfortable with my partner made a huge difference.
Sex is meant to be fun, not stressful. Even if you can't orgasm, it's about enjoying each other. So both of you, relax and enjoy the ride...and stop worrying about the finish line!
That just might get her there.
She is way too young for you.
20 and 29 is a very big age gap.
A 20 year old is also very sexually inexperienced. She still doesn't know what it takes to take hold of her sex life and know what makes her orgasm and what does not. She probably doesn't masturbate. Very doubtful she is as sexually experienced as she claims she is.
She's also not very smart if she hasn't been pro active enough to investigate on her own (before you) WHY she isn't orgasming.
She sounds a bit silly, just based on this alone. Find a grown woman who knows what it is she wants in life...including her sex life.
Find a lady your own age. You will have much more in common. You need an adult woman and not a kid. .
You thought sex with her would be amazing "Due to your experience and her young age"?? Are you KIDDING???
What year are you in? 1968????
Your priorities are screwed up, too -- your comment speaks worlds about you, your out of date mindset about sex.... and your own sex life. Sheesh......
She is really a man....
Sorry I can't take this seriously, you have so many misspelled words. Lol
I don't think English is this gent's first language. Hence the misspellings.
Re-read your post. Actually, older women tend to be better at sex, just because they know what they want and how to get it.
You thought the sex would be great due to your experience and her age? Umm, yuck.
Women need lots of foreplay, and a lot of women don't orgasm through penetration alone. If you are so experienced you would know this and try other methods like mutual master action and oral sex.
If ALL your previous sexual partners were multiorgasmic and doing so in. 3 seconds they were just lying to you. Read some books geared toward female pleasure and give her time. Avoiding sexual intimacy with her is just going to make her feel like something is wrong with her, which there is not (your ego seems to be the issue) and make her have more problems reaching orgasm (trust is a big thing to getting women to orgasm)
Get this book...
The Big O: How to Have Them, Give them and Keep Them Coming