WWGPM Husbands Do?

sgautschi

ETA: Edited so that the salary makes sense.

So my husband just got a great job at a company in his area of interest (aerospace) that will provide enough money for our family with me working only six days a month, about $10,000 a year for me and $45,000 a year for DH. He has the potential of making up to $80,000 a year, once some of his coworkers retire in 2-5 years (he would take over their positions). 

Our dilemma is deciding whether or not to have him continue to go to school. He has about 5 years (with only taking one or two classes a semester) until he gets his bachelors in aerospace engineering. He can't take any more than that at a time because he works full-time. He's already invested so much time and money in school, but he still has so long to go and he feels so burnt out.

Our other dilemma is that if he stops school, we have to start paying student loans. Probably about $200 a month. Irritating, but probably manageable.

What were debating right now is having him take one class next semester to keep the student loans pushed off, or take a semester off and resume in the spring, or stop school altogether. If he takes a class next semester, he'll be limited in the overtime he could work, which means less money we could earn, and if he's already burnt out now without the baby, Im afraid hell be too overwhelmed to enjoy being a dad. He's afraid if he takes the semester off, he won't go back, which may or may not be a bad thing. He's also afraid if he stops school, he'll regret not getting his degree.

What are your opinions on this? What would your husbands do? If you already had your baby, was your husband really overwhelmed in those first few months? Do you think he could've handled full time work and one class two nights a week, keeping in mind I'll be home on maternity leave.

pistolpackinmomma

I don't see why a different full time job will be different than the one he has now if he won't be doing a lot of over time to allow for school. As far as when the baby comes, once again I think it will be the same with the new job as his current job. I c

sgautschi

Yeah I don't want him to give up his school either, since he's already iinvested so much time in it, but he's questioning whether its worth stressing out the next four or so years, or if its worth just working hard and moving up where he is now. He doe

MRads

Are you making $45,000/year working 6 days a week? Cause if you are, let me know your secret.

My H is going to technically be a full time student and a full time employee when the baby comes. We had agreed to wait to do any treatments to get preg

kanels11

MRads:

Personally, I wouldn't want to delay a 5 year process of getting a degree any longer than it has to be. It would

tdmd09

I'm never a proponent of dropping out of school, personally.

My husband is finishing an associates in fire science that will be beneficial (although not mandatory) for his job as a firefighter/paramedic. He works 24 hour shifts, every third day.

sgautschi

His days start at 5 am and are 9 hours long, compared to starting at 7am and only working 8 hours. So it's a little bit more, enough to make him a little more exhausted, but not a huge difference. He still has weekends off.

I've told him that I a

sgautschi

Tdmd - Im glad to hear that there are people who are able to juggle both baby and school while working, even if it is more difficult. Being FT parents, we don't know what to expect, so it's nice to have that reassurance that it is possible. 

bobcee

I would definitely have him continue school now.  I think it will be easier when the baby is younger than when it's older and involved in school, after school activities, etc....And from the sounds of it he'd either be doing schooling or overtime

sgautschi

Bobcee- Thank you. You bring up some great points. 

Thank you ladies! I will definitely pass all your thoughts on to my husband, I think he just needs reassurance, and I needed it too.  

pistolpackinmomma

As for him missing out in firsts, he may still miss them while working. If you only have to work 6 days per month then at least there's a better chance if them being with you than a stranger. Also, as for how to juggle it, keep in mind that he may not be

liall09

Also, I'd double-check with your loan company on when you'd need to start paying them back. For mine, if I was going to school less than half-time (so less than 6 credit hours/semester), I had to start paying my loans back.

sgautschi

liall09:

Also, I'd double-check with your loan company on when you'd need to start paying them back. For mine, if I was going to s

sgautschi

pistolpackinmomma:

As for him missing out in firsts, he may still miss them while working. If you only have to work 6 days per mon

nic77du

What's the job type if you don't mind me asking?  I am an engineer in the aerospace field, and like a pp said, the salary is typically much higher then that.  If he's settling for a technician job, he should really push to get his engineering

fusionbride

I personally a fan of getting a bachelor's degree-- especially in a specific field like that where he can easily identify jobs.

My H has a job where he works up to 70 or 80 hour weeks sometimes, and so those weeks sucked since I had baby all day

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Flamingo86

Like PPs, I am almost always a fan of finishing school. Yes it will be hard, but I think it's worth it.

Also, my DH is an aerospace engineer, and from what I know the starting salary is usually around 80k and has the potential to be quite a bit m

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What's the job type if you don't mind me asking?  I am an engineer in the aerospace field, and like a pp said, the s

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LexiMS

a) he should definitely stay in school, if he loses his job by chance, it will be much easier for him to find another job if he has a degree. 

b) there is NO way I would be taking a class for my DH.  I am sure he is under a lot of stre

carcrashheart

oh boy. i can't wait until this kid goes to school. will you be doing their homework as well when you deem it to be something that they won't need to know in the future?

if you're taking his classes for him, even if it is only one, then he needs

AGsWife

Your HUSBAND should stay in school. 

drillerswife

AGsWife:

Your HUSBAND should stay in school. 

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NieceyK

1. Stop taking classes for him. If he can't handle the work then he shouldn't be taking the classes to begin with.

2. Earning potential =/= guarantee increases or promotions. Anything could happen. They could hire someone they like more...people'

procstar25

I'm taking online courses and I'd love for my husband to take them for me. Buuuuut I'm a big girl and can do them myself. So maybe your husband can grow up?

 

pourroni

Are you for real? Like really, for real? I'd love to know what school your husband attends so I could report him. I work full time, go to school, and take care of a child, house, and husband. If you want to make it work, then make it work. But don't do it

rebaann

1)  I would absolutely do whatever I had to do to finish my bachelor's degree.  It's extremely difficult to get ahead without that piece of paper.

2)  I worked full time and took two graduate level classes a semester when getting m

waterfall213

Your husband should stay in school and finish his degree now. Your LO isn't going to remember the first 3 or so years of life anyway. Yes your husband might miss out on some things, but he'll most likely miss things whether he's at work or in school. <