How to take charge

ILoveHearts2013

Hello everyone. I am new here. MH and I have been together for over a year and a half and we have been married for for four months now. He told me he would like for me to take charge or start sex sometimes too. I try to but I wind up too embaressed then I stop and it kind of kills the mood sometimes. I don't know why I get embaressed I am very comfortable with my body and sex is awesome with him.I really like being the one who gets dominated instead of the one who dominates.

Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

aliwisewoman

I am always the one that initiates sex and it is my husband that feels uncomfortable being the seducer.  It's annoying! LOL The man is supposed to be the one that dominates but whatever.  Okay, so my first thought for you is to not go too over the top when in the seducer role.  Don't go all "stripper-gone-wild" with the bedroom eyes and smooth moves.  Keep it simple.  Kiss him. Get him excited.  That's pretty much it.  If he wants you to take it a step further, get on top.  I think some of it is just him wanting you to show him that he is wanted.  That is how I feel. I am not worried about which roles we are in, but if I'm always the one to initiate sex it makes me feel like he is only responding to me. Not that he wants me.  Does that make sense?  Don't stress about it. You don't have to be a dominatrix to dominate a man.  

anssett

It sounded like all he wanted was for you to initiate. There's nothing dominant about that. It just means you express your desire for him, with him. Then act on it.

Manther1222

What about sexily asking him to dominate you?

Booga101

so yeah just tell him you like to be dominated or try thinking about the ways you like to be dominated, then maybe use what you like or would like on him

irishdad80

I have the same problem with my wife. I don't know for sure but in my relationship it is more that I want to feel like my wife wants me. I know she knows I want her and tell her an a pretty alarming basis. Even though she still tells me she wants me she has never really gone after me in bed. Unless there was a super bad fight that and she knew that I was overly heated about what was being said or done. We are guys and yes we should be dominate in the bedroom but that doesn't mean that we don't want to feel that we are lusted after. I dont need her to play Dom just show me she wants me.

anssett

Use your words to tell him all the ways you want him to dominate you and what you want him to do to you. Easy as that! Be sexy about it. It'll work out great.