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Am I in the wrong or crazy for thinking this?
I came home and my husband was on the phone. He was on the phone for 15 mins while I was home before he got off. He never once acknowledged that I was home until he got off the phone. Completely ignored me.
Am I in the wrong for thinking he should have done something to acknowledge that I was home like wave it something? I would have done something if it were the other way around.
I told him I thought that, then he told me I was being a little *** and said ** you and left (he had a final to go to though)
I know I can have a tendency to overreact (a lot, I have PMDD so massive moods wings and uncontrollable hormones. It literally makes me crazy some times.) I just want to know if I'm wrong for thinking that he should have done something to acknowledge that I was home
Re: Am I in the wrong or crazy for thinking this?
I don't think you're wrong at all for wanting him to acknowledge your presence... I would have been a little hurt too. I would have said something about it, but not make it a huge deal, just make it known that it hurt your feelings and why..
I think it is wrong for him to cuss at you like that though. Being called bad names is not a good thing.. I would say something big about that as well, but that's just me. I don't like to feel disrespected in our relationship and saying bad words to somebody doesn't show respect.. 
Just keep trying to communicate with him and let him know how you feel.. Best of luck!
to answer your question...YES ( to both)
While, yes, it sucks to feel like your presence has gone unnoticed...in the context of your husband being busy on the phone, try not to take it personally. He's just busy. If so much emotional energy and stress is spent on the little things like this, then you might wear yourself out for when the big issues happen (the ones that happen in practically all marriages).
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Yes, you overreacted. But so did he by flipping out and cursing at you. Not that it makes his reaction any more acceptable, but were you aggressive? Did you tactfully approach him like "Honey, I was a little hurt that you didn't acknowledge me when I came in the door. Going forward, just give me a little wave or smile to acknowledge my presence." Or did you go at him guns blazing - "Would it kill you to just WAVE at me A**HOLE?!?!"
I don't think you were wrong for thinking he should have acknowledged your presence when you came in. MH and I always kiss when one of us comes in the house. Did you wave at him or say something to him when you came in? I also don't think it was wrong for you to let him know how you felt as long as it was done in a non confrontal tone.
What I do think is wrong is YH cursing at you like that. I couldn't imagine MH talking to me like that. That is so wrong. You should let YH know that is not acceptable.
TTC since September 2012
I think it's fine to want acknowledgement in some way. However, I do think you were overreacting a bit. He was on the phone and was absorbed in that conversation.
What worries me is the fact that he cussed you out for voicing your feelings. For me, that's a major red flag.
Would have acknowledging you been nice? Sure. But is it something to get pissed off about? No.
I think you both handled this poorly.
~Benjamin Franklin
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I don?t think you are crazy. I I too get upset if you don?t acknowledge that I?m there.
But you must try not to over react, is not a big deal after all. Try to speak with your husband about how much it affects you and how do you feel about his reaction.
Do not go over the limit with it. Remember that sometimes when people is very busy or worried about something, have a tendency of retract themselves from the rest of the world.
I always find the best way (in my marriage) to handle something like this is to mention it NICELY when we're lying in bed at night. Something about being physically close and not having to stare at him while I confess my insecurites seems to help.
Next time, before you react, keep your end-game in mind. Your goal is to feel more loved and have him be excited you're home. Calling him an a-hole is probably not going to motivate him to do that.