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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
This board sucks!!!
A few pleasant people for the most part, nothing but a bunch of ignorant @$$#013$ and that's an understatement.
No need to block me or anything like that. I'm gone.
Re: This board sucks!!!
I never responded to any of your posts but DUDE - you nitpick EVERY LITTLE THING and try to twist into something to be upset about. It's exhausting. And even when people respond to you, you have a rebuttal at the ready.
GO TO COUNSELING. Or don't. Whatever. If you really think your wife is that shittty of a person, why are you still with her?
TTC since September 2012
Here's the thing: people here are helpful, but blunt. Not my style in general, I prefer to temper it a bit, but I respect their opinion. With you, yes people are harsh. But it's because you don't seem to take any advice. Have you ever had a friend who asks for help repeatedly but never takes your advice? It's frustrating. Beyond so. That's what it's like here
You and your wife have communication problems. It's probably gotten worse over the years. You need counseling to reconnect. You are way too nitpicky, she could be more considerate. You keep coming back with minor incidents where you just can't seem to let go. Like the fire night date. You said she came back and you has a lovely time! Who cares if she folded a couple shirts? Holding onto that is building up your resentment towards her, and it isn't solving your problem. If you act all wounded when she does this stuff, she's going to go on the defensive. Nothing gets solved. She thinks "nothing's good enough". So she doesn't try anymore. Then you become more upset bc she doesn't try. It's a circle you are doomed to repeat unless you both make a real effort to move forward.
I know this post is a GBCN, but given your narcissistic tendencies that we discussed in a previous post, I am 100% certain you will see this.
You called me an ignorant b--ch. The b--ch part is probably true (that wasn't a very nice way to express what I was thinking, was it?) but I don't think ignorant is the word you are looking for. On the contrary, I think I have a fairly good picture of what is going on in your life. You want your wife to be something that she is not. You expect her to do things the way you want her to do them, but you don't ever tell her that. She knows it though. So the two of you are locked in your little passive aggressive game where you continually play the martyr, heave a sigh, roll your eyes, and keep your tally of all the wrongs she is doing you but never actually say anything to her about it. And for her part, she doesn't consider your needs first, and isn't thoughtful to you because underneath she is seething at how you are acting.
Look, I don't know you, have never met you, will never meet you. So why do I keep trying to reach through the internet and shake some sense into you? I'm not sure exactly. I guess its because I know that its not that you don't WANT to change or fix things, its that you honestly CAN'T see that YOU are the problem. And if you could ever for a minute understand that to be true, your entire life would be so much better, I promise you. So. Much. Better.
This guy again? Do I even want to read his most recent post?
I'm going to assume something along the lines of "My wife likes her brother/sister/best friend/hairdresser more than me because 12 years ago she didn't make me a pork chop. I'm right, aren't I? Oh, I'm not? Yes I am because then her dog ate my shoe and she didn't yell at him. I'm still not right? You guys are horrible. I love my wife! Why does my wife not wipe my shoes off after I come in from the mud? Why doesn't she put me first? Oh you guys still think I'm wrong well you're horrible, horrible people and now I'm going to pretend I'm leaving but will secretly lurk to see what you say about me."
That about sum it up?
I'm sure it is. Completely unreasonable people often use ignorant as a synonym for "You don't agree with me".
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating
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So long, now.
And have a nice day.