Can we talk about anal sex please?

HeyitsDubbs

My boyfriend has made a couple of comments about enjoying anal sex.   I am not a big fan.  I've always found it painful.   However, I haven't attempted this in going on 10 years.  In the past decade I have not encountered that many men who enjoyed it.  Most didn't like it.

I'm willing to try anal again.  I am excited to try it again.  My boyfriend is all about me using a vibrator on myself during which sounds exciting.

So my question is...

Do you like it?  Any advice on making this more enjoyable? 

anssett

The key to anal is LOTS OF FOREPLAY, lots of lube, lots of patience, and the recipient sets the pace. I'd suggest starting with fingers to get comfortable with relaxing while being penetrated. Use latex gloves to keep your partner's fingers clean and sanitary. Consider small vibrator penetration (covered by a condom) as a next step, then larger vibrator play. Then, when you feel comfortable enough to try anal sex get in a position where you control the degree of penetration and pace. (Doggy style position works pretty well) You move yourself onto his penis (CONDOMS for sanitation). You have to focus on relaxing and breathing but once your body starts to get the message and actually relaxes it can feel fantastic. 

If I didn't say this enough times, anything that goes in a butt can't be used in a vagina again without THOROUGH cleaning. Don't double use sex toys in your butt and vagina. Get different toys or use condoms/gloves to cover them. You can get serious infections if you don't do this. Not everyone seems to know that. 

JemmaWRX

I've done it several times and enjoy it.  I second PP - definitely start off with something smaller (i.e. fingers, butt plug, anal beads, vibrator, etc) before allowing him to insert his penis... you really want to work yourself up to actual penetration.  Definitely use lots of lube and have it on hand in case he needs to re-apply.  Check out Adam and Eve for anal sex toys and anal lube.

 

And most important - don't do it if you have to poop!

vpine

Your question 'do you like it?' - it's not for me.

cyndilouwho77

Enjoy anal sex is not something that is going to happen over night and esp not the first time.

My hubby and I have been working our way up to anal for several years....My body needed to be worked up to the point that I could actually take my husband.  We started with small toys and worked our way up very slowly and with lots of lube. 

Learning to relax was the hardest part for me, I always tensed up instead of relaxing and allowing things to happen.  If you tense its not going to be any fun for either of you. 

So like I said anal sex takes a ton of practice, we now regularly enjoy it but it took a long time to get there and lots of trust.

Good Luck!

rachelgarcia7

This is not an overnight thing and remember- you ARE the one in control of this situation. Remind your husband of this, you are allowing his to do this at your will and your pace. I personally think a warm, sexy bath with a bottle of bubbly is the best way to start. (best to be squeaky clean) LOTS AND LOTS OF LUBE- cannot say this enough. I suggest starting with a little massage, tongue and a finger (again, importance of squeaky clean). Make sure all toys are properly cleaned and fingernails are super short. This is your husband, so as opposed to the above post- I do not recommend condoms for this, just my preference- but I found this addition uncomfortable. You might try anal eaze and a plug to get started. As a side note, vaginal intercourse with a butt plug in place can induce mindblowing orgasms GOOD LUCK!!!

rachelgarcia7

OH, missed the boyfriend part- be safe, use condoms.

Wulfgar

I am on the large size so I am no longer allowed to do anal on MW (we did it a few times prior to marriage all with her drunk).  I have met other women who came to enjoy it or used it instead of regular sex to prevent pregnancy.

amtsmoh

Hubby and I have had anal several times, I have to be in a really raunchy mood to want it. We have talked about using a vibrator/dildo for double penetration and that makes me really excited. As pp said it must be done at your pace with plenty of lube otherwise it is really uncomfortable.

Unknown

The trick for me with anal sex was to be super relaxed. I usually it has to be spooning and a vibrator has to be involved. Its not something I like to do regularly but its fun to do every once in a while for a little bit of a change and especially if I have had a little bit to drink or am feeling a little raunchy. But that's just my FI and I. Good luck!