Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
He hates me!
Hey everyone -- I wanted to update you on somethings. Here's a link to my old thread on the pets community board so you can fully understand the situation. http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73245724.aspx
So, I am missing Hudson so much. But I know he is in such a great place! I talk to my parents every day and they are always telling me how happy he is and that he is in bliss being in a big house (compared to an apartment) in the country side of Pennsylvania. Apparently he has even turned into my dad's cat, he follows him every where, hangs out with him on the patio while my dad grills or has a glass of wine. I know he is being well taken care of, loved and I know he is happy.
But i hate to sound so selfish, but I'm not happy. I am seriously going through a depression because I miss him so much. All I can think about is him, I can't even read funny cat-themed buzzfeed posts any more without getting teary eyed. He has been my buddy, my Huddy Buddy, for so long and I am having a hard time moving forward without him. But i know, that it would be selfish of me to bring him to a small apartment where he couldn't go outside and where he wouldn't have a friend all day long to keep him company (aka my mom)
Here's why I am so upset. Every morning when Hudson and I were together, I would wake up, shower and right as soon as I got out of the shower I would sing him the "good morning" song. I would sing "good morning to you" to the tune of "happy birthday to you". Hudson LOVED it! He literally knew how happy the song would make him that if I was taking too long in the shower he would start crying outside of the shower door to make me hurry up! So, I called home the other morning via FaceTime and my mom set up the iPad in front of Hudson who was lounging on the floor. He was looking at me and I started singing his good morning song to him. I knew he saw me because he didn't take his eyes off of me, I knew he heard my voice... But all of a sudden he ATTACKED the iPad. He seriously, full-blown, ATTACKED the iPad. I instantly started to cry. I feel like he knows I'm not with him and I feel like he is truly angry at me! I'm so devastated by this!
I'm seeing him in a couple of weeks for a long weekend (4 days, 4 nights) and I can't wait. But I still feel so saddened by this iPad event, I just can't get past it (I feel like it was his way to say screw you!). Everyone told me that he won't forget about me and he'll still love me... but it couldn't be more clear how ticked off he is with me! I'm nervous to go home to see him, what if he gets angry at me then too!?! What if he really truly does hate me!? I can't stand the thought of this!
Re: He hates me!
Animals never forget --- we've probably all seen videos that prove that they remember.The other day i saw a video of a woman who worked with wolves at some sort of a rescue -- when she came back months later, the wolves remembered her.:)
I don't think he hates you. Maybe he was trying to "get" you as you were on the screen.:)
Maybe you can volunteer at an animal shelter; this way, you'd get your "cat fix."
Is there any way you can adopt another cat, or foster cats?
Hudson certainly does and will continue to remember you. Our furry babies just don't "get" the whole technology thing! He was probably very confused about you being in that little screen instead of standing right in front of him singing.
Try going for a visit to your parents' house when you get a chance, and singing his good morning song one day. I'm sure it'll make him the happiest cat ever!
I really think he's just missing you terribly, even though he's very happy with his living arrangement. I very much doubt he hates you. It's hard though, since we can't explain to our furbabies why we're not there with them or had to go away.
Ditto PP that maybe volunteering at a cat rescue/shelter would help you out. I completely understand how sad and lonely it must be for you in that little apt when you were used to having a companion to snuggle up with. Just think about how happy you'll make the kitties at the shelter until you and your Huddy Buddy can be reunited.
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6