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Anyone or know someone who is a foster parent?
Anyone a foster parent? I was just looking for some insight on the process. Has anyone done the foster parenting classes required for the state, or know someone who has?
Re: Anyone or know someone who is a foster parent?
I plan on doing this after I have a child myself, I don't know anyone who has done it, only one of my parents who went through the system. I know it's not an easy process...
And holy crap, I am unbanned from the nest all of a sudden!
I'm in MA, but my cousin and her husband took in my other cousins kid about 10 years ago. I moved in with them to help. It was extremely difficult and emotionally draining - most of that was due to family. But it would have been hard NOT to get attached to this kid anyway if he wasn't related to us.
In anycase, if you have faith in your state to make good decisions about they CHILDS welfare, go to it. MA is beyond screwy with DSS and makes some really awful decision that do NOT act in the best interest of the child, I can tell you from first hand experience. My little cousin will undoubtely be in jail in the next 10 years - and he's ONLY 10.
I work with lots of foster families in Ma. I think you can specify that you want a "pre-adoptive" placement. I also know the DSS system in MA has undergone a lot of reform (partially as a result of the Hailey Poutre abuse case) in the last few years.
I also think it depends a lot on the social worker with whom you end of working. Some are better than others. From what I can see working in early intervention there are lots of needy babies and toddlers out there!
Are you thinking of doing this yourself?
I recenty met a toddler in foster care who was removed cuz his shoes were so tight they were causing necrosis(sp?) in his toes, bits of his toes had to be removed, the poor thing!!!
I am thinking about doing it..... I have always wanted to. I just didn't think I would be old enough. I know I could handle a baby, but I think Scott and I would want to focus on school-age and older first. We would want to do more emergency setting type things, then pre-adoptive. For example I heard a story last week of a single mom who got into a car accident, and she had NO ONE to watch her three kids, so while she was in the hospital for a month, I dont really know what was wrong with her, her three kids were split up, and put into different foster homes. I would want to be able to keep the siblings together for that time, and take them all.
And we are renting this house that has plenty of room, we live in a great community, that has great schools- I think we have a great extended family to welcome these kids into.
One of my questions, what if Scott and I aren't married? It didnt say anything on the DCYF website. We could get married now, but why spend all that money ;-P We would be become foster parents together, but how would it be looked upon?
I have many more questions too, but I have to jump in the shower.... any answers would be greatly appreciated!