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Follow up on kids' playing
Does your kid dictate playing? I really hadn't paid attention to this until a friend pointed it out. Dd dictates pretty much every aspect of play. If she wants us to play with her she says, mom play dolls with me. Fine. But then she will say, mom you have to be this one and pretend this and pretend that.
She had a friend over the other day and was doing the same thing. I said a couple times to her to stop and let her friend choose but her friend says, that's ok I like it.
i think this is coming from her being an only child and her friends are not as strong willed as she is.
Anybody else notice this? I assume its normal to an extent but feels like dd does it a lot! I always worry about her being an only child and don't want her to think she can always get her way. If we play with her we generally just do what she wants since we don't really care vs a sibling who might fight back. Lately we have been trying to not just do whatever she wants and talk to her about letting her friends choose when they play, etc. IDK I think it's also just personality...dd is a leader/boss!
Re: Follow up on kids' playing
haha, Jake is similar! He always tells me which superhero I have to be, or which car...and watch out if I don't have them use the right superpower or something! Immediate correction. It's funny to watch him & Liam now, because up until recently, Liam would just do as told, but now he's starting to have ideas about how he wants to play & is speaking up for himself!
as far as with other kids, it really depends on which friends he's playing with. there are a few friends of his who are much more outgoing than Jake is, so they're usually the ones calling the shots and Jake goes along with their ideas. But if he's playing with other kinds of friends, then he does fall into that role of dictating what he wants to do. If he starts to sound too bossy or the other kid is upset, I'll step in and tell him that we should let our friends have ideas, too, or maybe that they can play his way for a few minutes, then switch or something like that.
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
Same here.