October 2012 Weddings
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Confession Thursday
Anything you want to get off your chest?
Re: Confession Thursday
Back story:
DH and I went out drinking with some of his softball team on Friday. It was one of the girl's birthdays. The father of her twins showed up and is a total tool. He broke up with (more like cheated on) her like a year ago and that was the last time he saw his daughters. They are just over a year old. Anyway he was being a total douche all night. He even touched my boob right next to DH. DH had his head turned and didn't see it happen, thankfully. I waited to tell DH about the boob touch until the next day, I did not want him getting into a bar fight!
My confession:
DH has softball tonight, and there is a small part of me that hopes he punches that douche. I really don't want him to get into a fight but this dude needs to get punched out. That and there is another small part of me that would find it really hot if DH did something that protective of me. DH told me he's not going to say anything about it to him unless this guy talks to him. DH said he would tell him not to talk to him and if he ever touches me again it will be game over. I'm really happy he's taking the high road on this.
My period was 5 days late (that NEVER happens to me, ever!). I tested and it was negative. H and I are nowhere near ready to be pregnant, I could tell he was really disappointed that it was negative. I was not disappointed, but relieved.
I think he is starting to feel his biological clock ticking since he will be 38 in June. That terrifies me
Confession #1 - I want to get custody of H's daughter. Her mom is now wanting to hold her back in 1st grade because of her reading. HOW ABOUT YOU WORK WITH HER?! H offered to take her for a year, she said no. I think H should offer to take her this summer so we can work with her. I'm even willing to pay the same child support! There's no way she's getting the attention she needs with 4-5 other kids in that house (a 2 bedroom mind you, with 3 adults). H doesn't want his dirty laundry out in a custody battle but his ex has some too. I just feel like we have more to offer her/them. They could have their own rooms, and we can work with her every night with homework etc. XW works 2nd shift so really doesn't see them during school. Her mama watches them. But I'm not the parent, just the stepmom. I can only tell H I'll support him if that's the route he wants to go. It breaks my heart though, but I have to be strong for him.
Confession #2 - I will throat punch the next person to tell me "there's never a good/perfect time to have babies". No but there's a bad time, and that's when you can't afford them. If we had an unplanned pregnancy could we make it, sure. Will I actively TTC when we can't - NO! I'm 28, not 40 - LEAVE ME ALONE /rant
Today was my last day at my job. I have been an assistant in a special ed classroom for the past two years. I put in my notice on Monday saying that I wouldn't be returning next year since we were supposed to move for H's new job. About 30 minutes after I did, we found out that H was allowed to take a position close to home, so we now don't have to move. I decided I was still not coming back next year.
I'm not sure how I really feel about all of this. Sometimes I'm a little sad (mostly because I'll miss two of the kids), and other times I'm completely indifferent. My lead teacher I work with is moving to another school for a position with slightly higher functioning children, and I didn't want to do my job without her. I am going to miss my other co-workers, but I feel like I should feel bad, or scared that I don't have any idea what I'm going to do.
Mana, as a teacher, I know first grade is the most important year in elementary school. That is when children learn all of the fundamentals of reading. If your stepdaughter needs to be left back, now would be the best time. I do 100% agree with you that working with your child is incredibly helpful. If she is not developmentally there in some areas, another year of first grade will give her time to catch up both academically and developmentally. I understand your frustration with the situation and ex-wife, too. Hopefully you can get her permanently or for the summer and help boost her up.
My confession
I absolutely love being a teacher but I am beginning to hate my job. I teach in one of the worst schools in my district. Last year was my first year in the building and I had the worst class of my 8 year career. I almost quit multiple times. This year I have a small class and they are great behavior-wise, but they just don't care academically.
State testing is over. We've had field day and our spring concert. To the children, the school year is over. I still have a month of school, last day for students is June 25th. I have no idea how I am going to get through 4 more weeks of instruction. They respect me and cooperate, but I am getting incredibly frustrated with teaching something and referring back the next day and being told they shouldn't be expected to remember information. A lot of it is the product of their environment and I get that, but it's disheartening. I spend a lot of time planning and a lot of money on my class and they are not giving me back what I am putting in.
Just an example of how bad it's getting- I was checking science homework the other day and they had to answer some questions in complete sentences. Not one child wrote a coherent sentence and most words were spelled wrong in the sentence AND those words were in the question.
Sorry, I didn't think that would be so long.
The school doesn't want to hold her back. Her mom wants her to, because she (ex wife) was held back in 1st grade too. SD really wants to learn and I think she just needs some help with homework and extra reading at night. When we have her (and SS) she wants me to read to her, and I say "nope you read to me now since you're a big girl". She struggles, but she gets it eventually. If she sees me reading my nook she's wants to know what I'm reading, and what it's about... I really thinkg she just needs attention and encouragement.
We're going to do what we can with the week we have them. Ex said no to keeping her longer this summer. I'm going to make flash cards (as per my teacher friend) and start with K and work up. Then get some books and work books etc. Ex said H can skype with her now, and we can keep up with the flash cards. I thought about getting her a "special" doll to read to it every night. Make it fun like playing teacher or something. So maybe she can do it on her own. I hate being so far away.
H already told XW he wants everything through the court now, and she was ok with that. He's still debating on a custody battle.
I think you're right to work with her when she's with you and over Skype. The doll to read to may be a big help because it will make her feel responsible.
Keep doing what you're doing, it'll make a difference.
It's ok. I thought it was the other way around too.
I think the "reading doll" idea is a great plan! Kids love to watch adults and then model their behavior (the kids at work do this all the time!), so hopefully she will be able to remember all of the fun you and your H had with her when helping/encouraging her to read and be able to reenact that with her doll.