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Where is my best friend?
I have been best friends with "B" since kindergarten. She and I went through everything together, with her even being the MOH in my wedding. B has one issue.... She and her brother are genius-level smart. She has a hard time communicating with average people, and often became upset or frustrated as a child. I would always have to explain her to people and was always there for her to calm her back down or make her smile. If I could describe her to anyone, she is exactly like Dr. House from the tv show "House." She is a miserable genius.
She is about a year into her residency four hours away. She is an emergency pediatrician and is on different shifts all the time. She was always very busy but she would usually reach out to myself and one other mutual friend and let us know when she would be free to hang out. Sometimes I would text her and she would get back to me eventually, maybe a couple days later.
i have not heard from B since New Year's Day. I have texted her and she has not answered. Our mutual friend lives in the same city and B has not answered a single one of her calls. I do not ever call B because one time I did I woke her up in the middle of the day because she had worked an over night.
i miss my best friend. I do not know what else I can do to get back in touch with her. I have tried to contact her a number of times in the past few months and she hasn't gotten back to me at all. My mom even told me she tried to call her mother (they used to be close as well) and got no response. What else can i do??
Re: Where is my best friend?
i miss my best friend. I do not know what else I can do to get back in touch with her. I have tried to contact her a number of times in the past few months and she hasn't gotten back to me at all. My mom even told me she tried to call her mother (they used to be close as well) and got no response. What else can i do??
You said it perfectly in the portion I copied above. I'd send her an email explaining that you miss the times you had together and wonder if you guys can "catch up" when she has a moment to breathe. I'd do it by email, in a very thoughtful and loving way.
I know that being in a residency program can be VERY challenging. I personally think it's a shame what this country puts medical school students through intensity-wise, but that's another story.
I also know that sometimes we lose our best friends for a while, or entirely, because of changes we cannot know. It's happened to me. But before making that assumption, give her a nice long loving email asking her if there is anything wrong, or if you can get together. If you don't hear anything, then I'd drop it and move on with my life.
Good luck.
Yep, by mail.
Get a cute little "how the heck are you" greeting card -- and inside the card, write a short note, asking her where she's been and that you're worried about her.
Residencies are busy, yeah...but where the heck is she and is she okay?. And that there was no reply from her mother is troubling.
Hoping she is not ill. People have a funny way of disappearing when they take ill.:(