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Reality Check
I haven't even been married a month yet and reality is already hitting me.
Right before the wedding I was diagnosed with IBS. I was in a constant state of pain with severe cramping and bloating and thought it was all wedding planning related. During the wedding and on the honeymoon is completely went away. About a day after we got home it was back and hasn't left since!! I am also having a difficult time at work, part of it which is related to the IBS. I can't focus, I have missed days, and am not lovin my job like I used to. Just feeling very unhappy in general.
So needless to say I have ZERO sex drive. My new husband is constantly wanting to have sex and I have lost all interest. My mind is somewhere else. I am thinking about all these other things and how I will fix them and live with this new found problem. I am on birth control and have been for about ten years, so my sex drive has always been on the lower side. But now it's just gone 
Please HELP!! I know I can't be the only one out there with this dilema. xoxo
Re: Reality Check
Maybe get a second opinion -- and look into alternative methods of treatment: acupuncture is what I highly recommend.
There's a guy I know who has Crohn's Disease -- he swears by acupuncture and he hasn't had a flare up in years.
Therapeutic massages may also be up your alley.
What you and he need to do is stick together on this; it's crucial. In the meanwhile, until you are feeling better, there's other things you can do, just for the intimacy: how about taking baths or a shower together?
He can also masturbate and put on a show for you --- you can also pleasure him that way. What guy would say no to that?:)
I have a chronic illness also and I will tell you that staying happy and doing things to make life happy and less stressful is the key to helping to keep a chronic condition under control. You must have a hobby, I'm sure --- indulge in that. Doing something positive that you're good at will do worlds of good for your frame of mind and emotional well being.
Wishing you luck. Take care.
Great advice, thank you very much! I am glad to hear that acupuncture is a soultion. I actually have an appointment this week, so hopefully will start to see big changes.
Thank you!
I don't know how long it takes for acupuncture to "kick in" -- I am guessing you'd have to have it done a number of times before you see results.:)
Yoga, also --- there's tons of places who have yoga -- look into that, also.