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Apparently you have to be pregnant to buy a house?
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DH and I bought our first home last week. We announced it on FB today and I've been flooded with comments and texts asking if I'm pregnant. No! We just wanted a house!!!
I guess only people with kids get to have nice stuff and houses...
Re: Apparently you have to be pregnant to buy a house?
Been there. We bought our home a few years ago (now sold as we moved) and were flooded with comments such as, 'Oh my goodness, time to fill it up with babies!"
We told people that we planned to fill it up as soon as possible, we promptly became parents of two beautiful puppies!
HAHAHA awesome!!!!!
Congrats on the house!
People are so obsessed about other people having babies, ugh. It's annoying. I know someone who has 4 bedrooms and it's just her and her spouse, and people are always asking which bedroom will be for kids, and "time to fill those bedrooms" comments get old real quick.
We bought a fixer upper about 2 years ago. We gutted the whole house and made it our own....we sill have plenty to do. The house just seems so much more appealing without children in it messing it up with their toys and splashing food around.
Why do so many people want everyone to have kids? Sometimes I think they don't want to be alone in having the responsibilities of children. It is hard to raise kids, lets face it! I luckily have a family that understands this and they don't pressure me. Although my grandmother's friends make remarks. They don't understand it.
When some ask me when we're having kids I say, " why ruin a great marriage?"...
This always cracks me up. We do think we want kids one day but just enjoy each other as it is now. Married for 2 years now, finished college, and bought our first home last fall.
The house buying broke the camels back and the questions have been flooding ever since. Sometimes I hate even going to family events because I know it will come up. Everyone else on both sides of our families were in far worse situations financially when they chose to have kids... so no one can possibly understand why we are waiting. We have two dogs and a cat, so the house feels pretty darn full!!
LOVE PP suggestion of "why ruin a perfectly good marriage?" I'm going to add this to my stockpile of good comebacks to "soo... are you guys thinking of babies..."
So far my favorite convo has been DH Grandma: This room would be perfect for a nursery DH: Or as a home gym. HAHHA I laughed so hard.
OMG! That's awesome!!! When we invited the ILs over for a tour of the house, they asked "where is the baby's room going to be?" DH said "We have the master bedroom, the guest room, my office, and then the sewing/painting room. I don't think we have room for a baby here!"
Like you, everyone in my family just kind of decided to have kids whenever. Even if they couldn't afford it or weren't in a stable relationship. Getting established before having a baby is so foreign in my family.. People don't get it!
I would play dumb : "uh, we're expecting a house?"
And as for the rooms I would probably say "Oh, I guess I could check and see if there is some room under the stairs?"