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Speaking Of Gifts - the no gift situation

A few weeks ago mention was made of not getting presents at a birthday party. Brooks' party is this weekend and I put on the invite, " your friendship is all the gift he needs." I had three parents from his class email me and either thank me or mention how nice it was to have that in. Perhaps it's his age, but we, and others are invited to so many parties and honestly most times we barely know the kid if at all. I think this is a nice way to say, " we want to celebrate with you and that is all." I'm not trying to change any social etiquette models or rewrite anything. But I did want to share with you all the kind words that we received.
 
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Re: Speaking Of Gifts - the no gift situation

  • I think that's a lovely way the phrase it!
  • Every time I've been to a party with something about no gifts on the invite...everyone always brings gifts though.  Myself included.  I didn't once, and had egg on my face when not only did everyone bring a gift, the birthday kid opened gifts during the party.  So I always bring a gift.  I try to stick with smaller gifts, but for me...especially with my experience...I feel totally weird going to a birthday party without a gift.  But I do think your phrasing is cute!

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    Every time I've been to a party with something about no gifts on the invite...everyone always brings gifts though.  Myself included.  I didn't once, and had egg on my face when not only did everyone bring a gift, the birthday kid opened gifts during the party.  So I always bring a gift.  I try to stick with smaller gifts, but for me...especially with my experience...I feel totally weird going to a birthday party without a gift.  But I do think your phrasing is cute!

    SERIOUSLY?!?!? If anyone brings a gift we would not open them during the party. That is so foreign to me that people would not be respectful of the host/ess request.  

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  • We decided not to put this on the invite but I've passed it along by word of mouth.  A few people have said tough I'm getting him something so I've mentioned that he has a college fund. Maybe that's tacky but these people said they were getting him something so if I don't tell them what he needs they will buy toys and clothing.  Both of which we have no need for. They seemed happy to give something useful.  Also they were close friends and family. I'm sure the others we passed it along to will buy him stuff too but I'm guilty of bringing something small even if it says not to as well. I try to buy something practical but I feel bad going empty handed. 
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  • I love that idea and will probably use your wording down the road for DS's future parties!
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  • Flame away, but kids are kids once.  They love gifts.  I love watching them open gifts.

    We give and get gifts.

    It's different for adults. But kids are this little once -- I just don't see the need to take that sort of fun away. 

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    Flame away, but kids are kids once.  They love gifts.  I love watching them open gifts.

    We give and get gifts.

    It's different for adults. But kids are this little once -- I just don't see the need to take that sort of fun away. 

    he is getting gifts, but we're moving in 6 weeks and he doesn't need anything. Unless someone wants to follow a list, which I think is rude, or put towards an experience.  Plus at this age he would be as happy with a box wrapped so he can unwrap them.  

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  • I usually take a book & a b-day card to parties that say "no gifts" b/c I KNOW everyone else will be bringing something. 
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