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Riding the gifts train- opening gifts at parties
This weekend is DS's first birthday party. Because of our huge families it is going to be very large and even though we've told people "no gifts" verbally I know he will end up with a lot.
is it rude not to open them? he will have no interest and not participate so it will really just be me and DH sitting there opening them, which no one really wants to see. I feel like that would be rude to our guests whom we don't get to see often but I also feel like it is rude not to acknowledge the gifts.
What would you do?
Our little hippo was as impatient as mom!
Hoping for a full 40 weeks!!
Re: Riding the gifts train- opening gifts at parties
And, I also agree on the thank you card! This is a personal pet peeve of mine. I was telling my husband the other day, I feel like we are constantly buying gifts for people, and don't get thank yous for so many. He didn't really see the big deal.
There are parties that we decline, and still send a gift. I question if the gift was received because there is no thank you note. We attend parties, bring our gift, and we know it is received. Still, no thank you card. I understand it takes time to sit down and write a little note, but the thoughtful touch is imperative in my book. And, a nice way to say "thanks" for people's hard earned money going towards gifts.
Two of my close friends do not live near us. We send gifts for their children's birthdays, Christmas etc.... Both always text to say the gift arrived. Immediately following the occassion, a thank you note arrives. If I didn't get these from them, I would instantly know something happened to the gift.
Does it coincide with how you are raised? Partner's influence? I don't know, but you will always get a thank you card from me
Stepping off soapbox now.
cutiepie I am going to piggyback your post and possibly get flamed for this. But my current pet peeve? Preprinted photo thank you cards. My H thinks its ingenious. I think its so tacky. I know they've become standard and basically the norm, but it irks me so bad. I took the time to purchase a gift (or gift card or cash or write a check or whatever). Take 5 minutes and WRITE me a note.
Two notable occasions. DH (then FI) was in a wedding for one of his best friends in Punta Cana. We spent over $2k going to that wedding, plus they had an at home reception. I refused to give them cash on principle so I made them a nice wedding album, which they loved. We got a preprinted photo TY note.
Second was at a communion party not long ago. We were given a preprinted photo TY note on our way out the door along with some cake balls. I was sort of pearl clutch about it. Maybe I'm too uptight but this nonsense bugs me.
amen sister! I am actually the same way with thank you notes. I went to two weddings where I never received a thank you note and although one of them was 12 years ago I haven't forgotten! I was in college, poor, and drove 5 hours to be at the wedding and not even an acknowledgement.
I will certainly send thank you cards... I'm glad you all think that is enough. I really didn't want to open them at the party!!!
ETA I think TY's should be handwritten as well... to me a pre-printed one is not much better than none at all.
Thank you about the preprinted cards - I HATE them, especially for weddings where you may have given someone a very nice handwritten check. The least they can do is personalize the thank you.
For my DD's first bday, we ended up opening gifts, but not all at once. We waited until things had died down and then we went around to people who were in each area of the house and opened their gift in front of them. So if there were 5 couples in the living room, we quickly opened their 5 gifts then left them alone and moved onto the people congregated in the next room. We saved the family gifts until the majority of people had cleared out then opened them at the end. It worked out well, but we were spread out throughout our house. I think it's totally acceptable not to open presents at a 1st bday party though.
Totally agree on the handwritten thank you notes, first of all. That shiit drives me nuts.
I was not planning to open gifts at D's party, but a bunch of people kept asking, so we ended up opening them toward the end of the party when some people had already left.
I also agree on the pre-printed thank you's. I could handle it if they wrote me a note on the back of that card. I get the idea of a picture of whatever occassion with "Thank You" scripted on the card. Then, write me a little note on the back or on a piece of note paper.
I recently went to a 1st Communion Party. The little girl had her thank you's out within the week. The mom wrote our names, and addressed the enevelope. Otherwise, it was her cute handwriting and a picture inside the thank you card. Job well done to that Mother and 2nd grader!
I haven't gotten too many photo TY cards, but I did get one for a wedding and that really bothered me more than I thought it would. We drove 3.5 hours, paid for a hotel, and gave a generous gift. I would expect at least hand-signing the photo card with a short note.
For TYs for DD's christening, I did photo post cards which were a big hit. Photo on the front, hand-written note on the back and less postage. win-win in my book.
I went to a bridal shower years ago where a blank envelope was at every place-setting. The MOH then instructed us to fill them out with our addresses.
While it makes it convenient for the guest of honor, I think it's a bit odd.
this is what I've done a bunch of time. Brooks now 'signs' his name with crayon. I do think our grandparents were confused at Christmas, but oh well.
We did this for our wedding
us too! I forgot about that. duh.
I just got a photos TY today. Nothing written on it.
I like the postcard idea! Maybe ill do that with a picture from his party!!