My sex life HELP!!

fruitsmoothy

- I have no sex drive. I literally have none. Maybe once a month I get horny on my own, usually I need his help, and often he doesn't turn me on at all (no worries about physical attraction, he has it)

 - I can only orgasm once per... session. 

- I have had sex, several times (about 12-13 times), over about two months period, and it doesn't feel good at all. In fact, it still hurts. I can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation.

 

I am starting to get really frustrated and we have tried oils, massage gels, pills, idk what is wrong with me at all, and I feel really wrong compared to what is advertised in the world..  Any advise/things i could try would be great. Thanks

vpine

I would see a Dr, maybe there's a hormonal imbalance

missyishere

Are you on any medication?  Birth control? Certain medication, and especially (for me) birth control put a damper on my sex drive. 

JemmaWRX

missyishere:

Are you on any medication?  Birth control? Certain medication, and especially (for me) birth control put a damper on my sex drive. 

This.  I was on BC and anti-anxiety for probably close to a year and I was dead below the waist.  Exercise helped a lot.  If I was having a particularly hard time getting in the mood, I'd pop on a porno which helped.  If you're not into porn you could try erotic books.

Before all that though, if it's not a side effect of any medicine you're on, I would talk to your doctor.

Good luck!

mikeandnat

I think sometimes the pressure/stress of having your guy there expecting success can sometimes stress you out. Try taking some alone time & get to know yourself-- what you like, what you don't. Work on clearing your mind of all the stresses of your day and just focus on relaxing. You'll be able to translate those skills when you're with him. In the meantime, think about the days when you are feeling it-- what triggers it? Maybe there's a certain type of music you like to listen to, or tv show you like to watch, that gets you in the mood. Try watching/listening to those things more often.