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Is he worth it?
I am embarrassed now because the way I wrote it sound like we are having sex all the time. Most of the time we are joking or watching netflix together etc. Anyway I had to write that because I was feeling very upset and confused (i now at forty)!
Thank you all.
Re: Is he worth it?
Celibate? I'm still giggling. I will bet you that he's got a whole harem full of ladies.
You are more or less hooked on sex with this guy because it is forbidden fruit: a monk, you say? That's probably the big attraction.
And I will bet you that even if you were his one and only he woldn't give up the order for you.
You can't trust this guy. Say goodbye to him and move on.
He's not the only guy in the world who can please you! Hold on to that.
My guess is that he was not actually celibate before he met you.
A trampy monk?
BEST. MUD. EVER.
Thanks for taking the time to reply. It felt good to to be able to talk anyway because I know it is an unpleasant thing to do that with a monk. I am very attached to him for we do like similar things besides having sex with each other. It seems silly to continue with something that is no future but its so difficult to end it just like that.
Yes, it appeared he was inexperienced but after what I discovered it's possible he is an exceptionally clever sociopath. Sorry if I gave the impression that he is a Christian pastor. He is monk for another faith who can renew vows after falling off the wagon so to speak. .
NOT cool at all you deleted your post.
To recap for those who want to know what the deal is:
The OP says she is having an affair with a monk. He's been seeing other ladies also and now she wants to know what's what; he's promised it will never happen again.
How in heck does a monk have this much time to spend with anyone, let alone find lots of ladies to indulge his sexual dalliances? That's what I want to know. Usually they are cloistered and if there are extern monks they don't have the freedom to come and go at their whim and stay out as long as they please.
Even if he can renew his vows after falling off the wagon, I'm assuming that the point of that isn't so that every weekend he can mess around with ladies and renew his vows on Monday. He doesn't sound very dedicated to his faith if he is not taking his vows seriously. I'm wondering if he uses that to avoid commitment with women who would have a more serious relationship if he "could". Either way, you deserve someone who can actually commit to you.
No, he is not worth it. You are wasting your life away with this one. If he was trul,y truly was serious about you, he would have stopped that first time ( or it wouldn't have happened at all). He has also figured out that you aren't a " actions speak louder than words " kind of gal and put on the dramatics in order to get you to stay. Funny thing is that you probably aren't the first woman he played this little game with.
Again, why are you wasting your time with this one ?
'Twas a great episode of SATC. I love me some Samantha. But seriously, OP, come on now, gurl.