Monday confessions

egpitt22

It's slow around here, and I'm tired from weekend festivities.  the end of the day seems so far away!

What confessions do you have this week?

MrsAmers

I'm getting desperate for a babysitter for Saturday. I have two people left to try and after that I'm going to start asking friends for recs. if I can't find one, I can't hang out with friends that I haven't seen since March. :-(

egpitt22

The older my kids get, the more I fantasize about being a SAHM, which probably goes against most logic.  But I did the SAHM thing when I was laid off when Jake was 18 months old, totally not for me.  However, now that I can picture getting him onto the bus in the morning and being there to pick him up, sending Liam to a smaller preschool program just a few days a week so I'd still have some time to myself...well, that picture looks a bit more rosy to me!!!   

MrsAmers

I guess mine is more of a vent than a confession. Oops.

 Emmy, I feel the same way and I think I'll feel it even more when both kids are in school and we need to find summer camps for both of them. The idea of freelancing from home is VERY appealing once T is in Kindergarten.... 

amyjoy18

Previously I hadn't given them much though, but once they hit home I realized I hate the "Save the boobies" campaigns.  Take the boobs--lets just save women. I think the campaign is degrading to women.

I want these shoes, and have enough in amazon gift cards to get them.  I can't pull the trigger because I'm cheap and they seem over priced.  I've been stalking them all over the internet looking for them cheaper.

http://www.amazon.com/PUMA-Womens-Bixley-Patent-ZX/dp/B009FNN57S/ref=sr_1_4?s=shoes&ie=UTF8&qid=1370882527&sr=1-4&keywords=puma+bixley

 

DH and I have discussed spanking (the kids not each other :-P).  I don't want to go there.  I was never spanked as a kid, but Brinley has us both frustrated.  What do you do when you tell your kid it's time to go and they run in the other direction and continue running?  Previous punishments are not working.  

LittleD8081

So, I'm finally taking the plunge and opening my own office....my own real office...one that I control and one where I have to do more than show up and do therapy and write a note and leave. The confession in this...I haven't told anyone yet. Why? I dunno. I'm secretly afraid that I won't be able to sustain it on my own, and then I'm secretly afraid that it will grow really huge really fast and I'll be like why didn't I do this sooner? I have everything bought, and I'm moving into the office this weekend. Wish me luck...

Meghan&Rich

I am interviewing for a part time position with another company.  I am on my second round of interviews.  I am really scared to make a change, and still not sure how it will all work out, but I'm so excited at the possibility to get more time at home with my boys!  Part two of that confession is that a new job will interfere with our baby #3 plan, and I'm not sure how I feel about that.

I definitely want to SAH when the boys are in school.  I don't know how people work FT and manage the logistics of school activities, sports, homework, etc.  We've only done 6 weeks of t-ball, and I'm already about to throw in the towel, haha!

waltsgirl102503

We got beer glasses as a favor from DH's cousin's wedding we went to the weekend before last.  They have their names on them, and we are not close with these people at all.  (DH isn't close with any of his cousins).  DH wants to keep the glasses though, but I don't want them in my kitchen.  We have plenty of other glasses, we don't need 2 that have another couple's name on them.  I am very, very tempted to be like the mom in A Christmas Story and "accidentally" knock them off of the kitchen counter and break them.   

lishie

egpitt22:

The older my kids get, the more I fantasize about being a SAHM, which probably goes against most logic.  But I did the SAHM thing when I was laid off when Jake was 18 months old, totally not for me.  However, now that I can picture getting him onto the bus in the morning and being there to pick him up, sending Liam to a smaller preschool program just a few days a week so I'd still have some time to myself...well, that picture looks a bit more rosy to me!!!   

This is me too. I was batty by the end of my maternity leave with Jackson, but by the end of leave with michael, I was warming to that idea, and now I really think I would love it. I so wish I could downshift to part time here. That would probably be perfect. 

My job has greatly improved since I've started working at home two days a week. Just saving the time of getting ready and commuting, and being able to get stuff done during my lunch hour has made after work time at home much better. 

MrsAmers

amyjoy18:

DH and I have discussed spanking (the kids not each other :-P).  I don't want to go there.  I was never spanked as a kid, but Brinley has us both frustrated.  What do you do when you tell your kid it's time to go and they run in the other direction and continue running?  Previous punishments are not working.  

 See my post about yelling from last week? ;-)

 

I don?t have an awesome answer for you, but commiseration that we are going through exactly the same thing. Usually the first step is to prove to the stubborn 4 year old in question that he isn?t going to get his way. We?ll carry him out, force his shoes on, etc. I?ve been known to carry him out to the car without shoes or a coat and put them on when we get to our destination and he has calmed down.

 

If there is some obvious treat or privilege coming soon, then I will try threatening to take the privilege away first. That is more likely to work on Heather, though.

 

Personally, I don?t think there is any punishment that will totally stop bad behavior with most kids?especially when they are pre-school age. So I would only spank if you are prepared for that to be a consistent punishment to teach the lesson more than once. Only the most obedient kids will never do a certain behavior again because they are spanked as punishment.

 

We don?t spank for a variety of reasons, but one of the biggest reasons to me is that it isn?t a one time thing and I don?t want that to be a regular tool in our parental toolkit. I?m not criticizing those who do, I?m just saying that it isn?t for us.

 

lishie

I'm feeling serious mom guilt today. Tomorrow is Jackson's big school-wide field trip to north park, and I'm busy at work and can't go. I've gotten bombarded with emails from the class e-mail list today from all the moms who are going, what snacks they're bringing, etc. Now I feel like a total failure because I'm not home to go with him on the field trip tomorrow.

lala5507

LittleD8081:

So, I'm finally taking the plunge and opening my own office....my own real office...one that I control and one where I have to do more than show up and do therapy and write a note and leave. The confession in this...I haven't told anyone yet. Why? I dunno. I'm secretly afraid that I won't be able to sustain it on my own, and then I'm secretly afraid that it will grow really huge really fast and I'll be like why didn't I do this sooner? I have everything bought, and I'm moving into the office this weekend. Wish me luck...

 

Good Luck!

lala5507

I hate the commercials for that "Mistresses" show.  Every time I see it, I do a huge eye roll. 

amyjoy18

MrsAmers:

amyjoy18:

DH and I have discussed spanking (the kids not each other :-P).  I don't want to go there.  I was never spanked as a kid, but Brinley has us both frustrated.  What do you do when you tell your kid it's time to go and they run in the other direction and continue running?  Previous punishments are not working.  

 See my post about yelling from last week? ;-)

 

I don?t have an awesome answer for you, but commiseration that we are going through exactly the same thing. Usually the first step is to prove to the stubborn 4 year old in question that he isn?t going to get his way. We?ll carry him out, force his shoes on, etc. I?ve been known to carry him out to the car without shoes or a coat and put them on when we get to our destination and he has calmed down.

 

If there is some obvious treat or privilege coming soon, then I will try threatening to take the privilege away first. That is more likely to work on Heather, though.

 

Personally, I don?t think there is any punishment that will totally stop bad behavior with most kids?especially when they are pre-school age. So I would only spank if you are prepared for that to be a consistent punishment to teach the lesson more than once. Only the most obedient kids will never do a certain behavior again because they are spanked as punishment.

 

We don?t spank for a variety of reasons, but one of the biggest reasons to me is that it isn?t a one time thing and I don?t want that to be a regular tool in our parental toolkit. I?m not criticizing those who do, I?m just saying that it isn?t for us.

 

Thanks for this!  I can't actually even imagine spanking one of my children, since I was never spanked, but DH was, so we had the discussion, on a particularly bad day.  

I think part of the problem is DH is pretty high strung, so his first inclination is to yell, "Brinley don't/stop/etc." It's become so common place that it doesn't have much effect.  So in order for him to get her attention, his yelling has to escalate.  I've talked to him about starting at telling her what he doesn't want her to do AND explaining what she should do instead.  So that if that doesn't work, then the next level would be yelling.  

But it's habit at this point (a habit that I HATE) so he needs to work on it too.

 

amyjoy18

LittleD8081:

So, I'm finally taking the plunge and opening my own office....my own real office...one that I control and one where I have to do more than show up and do therapy and write a note and leave. The confession in this...I haven't told anyone yet. Why? I dunno. I'm secretly afraid that I won't be able to sustain it on my own, and then I'm secretly afraid that it will grow really huge really fast and I'll be like why didn't I do this sooner? I have everything bought, and I'm moving into the office this weekend. Wish me luck...

 

Congrats and good luck! 

egpitt22

lishie:

I'm feeling serious mom guilt today. Tomorrow is Jackson's big school-wide field trip to north park, and I'm busy at work and can't go. I've gotten bombarded with emails from the class e-mail list today from all the moms who are going, what snacks they're bringing, etc. Now I feel like a total failure because I'm not home to go with him on the field trip tomorrow.

ugh, I hate stuff like that, I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I just found out that Jake's kindergarten orientation is the same day as my new student orientation at work, so I will most likely miss his.  I have a super flexible workplace, so I shouldn't complain, but I'm just like, ugh!!  the one day I would love to be there for him!!!  (and finding this out is part of what sparked my confession in the first place, about wanting to stay at home & never needing to miss out on stuff)  Hugs...try to not feel guilty.  easier said than done, I know.

sarahandtim

Coming from someone who has never been to a doctor's appointment (sick, well, specialist, etc) since maternity leave and sees my kid for about an hour a day, I feel the wanting to be a SAHM pain. It's truly gut wrenching at times.

My confession is that I'm totally obsessed with Simpsons Tapped Out. I am so excited every time I build a new house in my fake city. Lol!

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I really want another dog, like now. DH wants to wait until we move next month which is actually the right thing to do but I don't. We haven't had one dog in over 14 years and it is so odd. Plus, poor Bruce is so sad and lonely. But I only want an english chocolate lab and it is making things difficult.

I would love to rescue a dog but find their 'rules' a bit ridiculous in regards to fences. We have large breeds for 15 years without a fence, plus there 6.5 acres at the new house, it isn't getting fenced.

I almost put down a deposit on a dog last night since most breeders I found won't have a litter until at the earliest September. The breeder I really like is on the PA/NY border but her dogs are amazing but pricey. There is a local one, but she seems a bit off. 

egpitt22

I hosted a baby sprinkle for a friend at my house yesterday, and Liam went over to her belly, put his little chubby hands on it, said "hi baby!", then kept coming over to hug her belly.  My heart melted, and my uterus started to cry. 

we've said over & over again that we were done with 2, then I see stuff like that and get other ideas!!!  

egpitt22

Amber: I would feel the same as you with those glasses.  I think a tragic accident might be necessary.  Or, if you think that would be too suspicious if YOU knock them off, just strategically place them somewhere right where it would be easy for the boys to knock them over.

amyjoy18

kris356:

I really want another dog, like now. DH wants to wait until we move next month which is actually the right thing to do but I don't. We haven't had one dog in over 14 years and it is so odd. Plus, poor Bruce is so sad and lonely. But I only want an english chocolate lab and it is making things difficult.

I would love to rescue a dog but find their 'rules' a bit ridiculous in regards to fences. We have large breeds for 15 years without a fence, plus there 6.5 acres at the new house, it isn't getting fenced.

I almost put down a deposit on a dog last night since most breeders I found won't have a litter until at the earliest September. The breeder I really like is on the PA/NY border but her dogs are amazing but pricey. There is a local one, but she seems a bit off. 

We had the same issues with rescues before we got Deuce and ended up going to a breeder.  I get that there are irresponsible pet owners out there, but I found the people at most of the rescues to be stuck on themselves and their knowledge and condescending.  

One even went as far to tell me that Dobermans and kids don't mix. 

rona118

I hear you ladies on the mom guilt etc. Most days I think no way would I want to be a stay at home mom (and I only have one!). Then other days when I am rushing home for t-ball practice or having the worst luck finding a dang dance class that is after 5:30 or 6pm, I think it sure would be nice to be home. Or a FB friend was helping at vacation bible scool this week and was homeroom mother for her daughter's class... posting pics on FB. Bums me out. Yet I think of my mom who worked midnight shift as a nurse and somehow still managed to be homeroom mother. Think my boss would go for that change in hours? Ha.

waltsgirl102503

Oh, Emmy, I like the way you think!  He told me he'd take them to work and use them there.  But, 10 days later and there they are, still on my counter.  (With the sticky label on them that doesn't really come off...and I'm not wrecking my nails to get them off either!)  I'd understand if this was his favorite cousin or something...

Meghan&Rich

waltsgirl102503:

We got beer glasses as a favor from DH's cousin's wedding we went to the weekend before last.  They have their names on them, and we are not close with these people at all.  (DH isn't close with any of his cousins).  DH wants to keep the glasses though, but I don't want them in my kitchen.  We have plenty of other glasses, we don't need 2 that have another couple's name on them.  I am very, very tempted to be like the mom in A Christmas Story and "accidentally" knock them off of the kitchen counter and break them.   

We got glasses like this too - I hated the glasses, but Rich liked them and kept them in the freezer to use as beer glasses, so I let it go.  The glasses have a picture of the bride and groom etched on them, one holding a Steelers flag, the other a Browns flag, and it said "Love Conquers All" with their names and dates.  (Bride was a Steelers fan; Groom was a Browns fan)

Well, apparently love does not conquer all, because they are now divorced!!  And Rich still insists on using the d@mn glasses!

ETA: We've had the stupid things for 7 years!

waltsgirl102503

Seeing all of the SAHM wishes for school aged kids, I have another confession.  I couldn't be the super PTA school mom.  I volunteer at Noah's school when I can (I've gone on a field trip, I've helped with an art project in class, I've worked several school events, I belong to the PTA and go to each meeting), but I couldn't be one of the moms who is there constantly and running the PTA and homeroom mom (we don't have those anyway).   It's just not my thing.  i think it's important to be involved in your child's school, and I am...but not overly involved.   And maybe it's the moms that are in our school - I don't fit in with them.  I try to be friendly and they want no parts of me.  (And I'm nice and fun, dammit!)  

Luckystar2

amyjoy18:

kris356:

I really want another dog, like now. DH wants to wait until we move next month which is actually the right thing to do but I don't. We haven't had one dog in over 14 years and it is so odd. Plus, poor Bruce is so sad and lonely. But I only want an english chocolate lab and it is making things difficult.

I would love to rescue a dog but find their 'rules' a bit ridiculous in regards to fences. We have large breeds for 15 years without a fence, plus there 6.5 acres at the new house, it isn't getting fenced.

I almost put down a deposit on a dog last night since most breeders I found won't have a litter until at the earliest September. The breeder I really like is on the PA/NY border but her dogs are amazing but pricey. There is a local one, but she seems a bit off. 

We had the same issues with rescues before we got Deuce and ended up going to a breeder.  I get that there are irresponsible pet owners out there, but I found the people at most of the rescues to be stuck on themselves and their knowledge and condescending.  

One even went as far to tell me that Dobermans and kids don't mix. 

yeah  same with us. Most rescues had so many rules with fences, kids and how long you are away from home. Apparently only people with fences already (hello I don't even have a dog yet!), no kids and stay home all day can have dogs! 

We ended up going through a shelter. The ironic part is that because we have a kid and cats we really could have benefitted froma rescue that knows more about the dogs and they have cat and kid tested them, etc. the dog we ended up with was very difficult and a rescue would have never recommended her for us. We definitely thought about returning her. We have worked with her and still are and things are getting better. I just find it kind of crazy that the people who could most benefit from what rescues do they tend to not want to work with at all!  

egpitt22

Meghan-so exciting that you are in the interviewing process for a new job!  good luck!

Meghan&Rich

Thanks, Emmy! 

My other confession is that I hope all of us debating about more babies will have one at the same time and we can all be on maternity leave together! 

egpitt22

Meghan&Rich:

Thanks, Emmy! 

My other confession is that I hope all of us debating about more babies will have one at the same time and we can all be on maternity leave together! 

 haha, I would definitely never want to go back to work if that happened!!!  

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Luckystar2:

amyjoy18:

kris356:

I really want another dog, like now. DH wants to wait until we move next month which is actually the right thing to do but I don't. We haven't had one dog in over 14 years and it is so odd. Plus, poor Bruce is so sad and lonely. But I only want an english chocolate lab and it is making things difficult.

I would love to rescue a dog but find their 'rules' a bit ridiculous in regards to fences. We have large breeds for 15 years without a fence, plus there 6.5 acres at the new house, it isn't getting fenced.

I almost put down a deposit on a dog last night since most breeders I found won't have a litter until at the earliest September. The breeder I really like is on the PA/NY border but her dogs are amazing but pricey. There is a local one, but she seems a bit off. 

We had the same issues with rescues before we got Deuce and ended up going to a breeder.  I get that there are irresponsible pet owners out there, but I found the people at most of the rescues to be stuck on themselves and their knowledge and condescending.  

One even went as far to tell me that Dobermans and kids don't mix. 

yeah  same with us. Most rescues had so many rules with fences, kids and how long you are away from home. Apparently only people with fences already (hello I don't even have a dog yet!), no kids and stay home all day can have dogs! 

We ended up going through a shelter. The ironic part is that because we have a kid and cats we really could have benefitted froma rescue that knows more about the dogs and they have cat and kid tested them, etc. the dog we ended up with was very difficult and a rescue would have never recommended her for us. We definitely thought about returning her. We have worked with her and still are and things are getting better. I just find it kind of crazy that the people who could most benefit from what rescues do they tend to not want to work with at all!  

 

It is very frustrating. My mutt was 13 and my lab was 14 when we had to make the decision. We actually lived in an apartment for a few years with them.

I would never let them out in the yard alone anyway. My sister does this and it drives me insane. Although, one of the breeders I looked at requires a Puppy Personality Inventory and wants to know how you plan on handling a puppy if you both work/go to school.

I do understand that there are craptastic owners out there but if I have a vet reference and have owned a lab in the past (which seems to be a sticking point for these people) what is the big deal? 

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Meghan&Rich:

I am interviewing for a part time position with another company.  I am on my second round of interviews.  I am really scared to make a change, and still not sure how it will all work out, but I'm so excited at the possibility to get more time at home with my boys!  Part two of that confession is that a new job will interfere with our baby #3 plan, and I'm not sure how I feel about that.

I definitely want to SAH when the boys are in school.  I don't know how people work FT and manage the logistics of school activities, sports, homework, etc.  We've only done 6 weeks of t-ball, and I'm already about to throw in the towel, haha!

Good luck! I was wondering when you asked about preschools. I thought maybe Rich had decided to let you retire. ;-)