Last night, DH said...

ashleybunny8

"I want babies." I'll set the stage for you:

We had both had very long days. I cried at work (hooray for lousy coworkers!). He was transferred to a new office at his job. I was stuck in 2 hours of traffic because of a wreck. He assembled our new lawn mower and edger and did yard work for almost 3 hours after work. We didn't eat dinner until 9:00. Our house is a wreck because we just moved in. We have painting and packing supplies strewn all over the house. Eighty percent of our stuff is still in boxes.

He looks over at me, holds my hand, and said "Ok.. I want babies." BABIES. PLURAL. Not even one BABY. But multiple. Twins run in my family, so we're thinking we might have them eventually.. I look at him and laugh. I say "what happened today that makes you want a baby." He said "no, I want babies. Two little girls." Again I say "why?" He said "I just do. I want them. I know they will be beautiful and so perfect and I want them." It was very sweet of him, don't get me wrong. But I sort of look around our bedroom (which only has a TV and a bed in it at the moment) and say "Wouldn't today have sucked so much worse if we had a kid to take care of when we got home? We don't have the energy or time or money for a baby right now- let alone two!"

He nodded and looked really sad, but he knew I was right. I told him "one day we will, but not today! Not any time too soon!" He didn't say anything else.

Well, today he has been talking about baby and pregnancy stuff. It's killing me! I want kids one day.. but in like.. 7 years at least!! It's so weird because just 3 weeks ago he was joking about how everyone wants us to have babies right now except us! Errg!

Melissa51212

my h goes in stages  right now for whatever reason he is the never want kids stage, but I few months ago  he was all about it...He better make up his mind soon...im 30 lol 

dancingphalanges

My DH and I both have a tendency to do this.  We both want kids, just not any time soon, so we will periodically go through brief phases of baby fever.  He very likely does realize that now is not a good time for a baby (not to mention babies--whew!  I can't even imagine! haha) but he still has that desire to have a baby nonetheless.  I think it's a very good sign that he is willing to talk to you about it and that he wants to have children with you.

KonaCoffeeBean

This could easily be a scene from my life. 2 or 3 times a year my H decides he wants a kid, like now. We are very much on the same page that we want children eventually. But right now he is grad school, so I'm like "who's reality are you living in?"

kipnus

dancingphalanges:

My DH and I both have a tendency to do this.  We both want kids, just not any time soon, so we will periodically go through brief phases of baby fever.  He very likely does realize that now is not a good time for a baby (not to mention babies--whew!  I can't even imagine! haha) but he still has that desire to have a baby nonetheless.  I think it's a very good sign that he is willing to talk to you about it and that he wants to have children with you.

This. Whenever I spend time holding my friends' babies, or I see a cute little kid on the bus, I nudge H and go, "I want a baby!" But of course, that would be a terrible decision right now, and it won't happen. 

CowgirlK39

We JUST had this talk this morning, being Father's Day and all. DH was all upset that he isn't a dad yet. I reminded him that his parents raised both him and his sister in a hallway of an apartment because they had kids before having a decent home, and that his siter is now six months away from doing the exact same thing. I also reminded him that we are not financially ready and he countered with "I know tons of people who have kids but not a lot of money." I said "yeah, those people get government assistance for their kid. I refuse to do that." He continued to pout.