Post-Wedding Blues

cmbarnes88

My wonderful husband and I have been married for about two and a half months. I am so happy to finally be his wife, but I've had a hard time dealing with the end of being engaged and the whole "wedding planning excitement." Has anyone else gone through this? How did you deal?

vpine

This is quite common. Happened to me because I wasn't excited planning a wedding anymore, felt a tad empty. It did get better about 3-4 months later. 

EmilyK1116

This happened to me a little bit too.  I was torn - I was relieved not to have anything to worry about, but a little sad to be done with the planning.  I threw myself into figuring out marriage-related stuff - changing my name, social security card, passport, insurance, bank information, etc.  That took up so much of my time that I really didn't feel sad anymore.  After that, I started making a quilt to celebrate our wedding, but you could do any little crafty project to ease out of the wedding planning phase.  After I finished that, I just felt married and relieved to be done dealing with family members!

Apollo11235

I hated wedding planning, but H and I both had a touch of the blues after the wedding. I think time was a major factor in feeling better, but I also think working with our pictures helped: when we got our pictures back, I made a facebook album, we sent prints to older relatives and DVDs to our parents, I made our wedding album on shutterfly, and we bought some frames and had several prints made to put up around the house. We also spent a lot of time shopping to use up our gift cards that we got from the wedding, which kept us busy.

I think it also helped that we had a delayed honeymoon, about 2 months after the wedding, which gave us something to keep looking forward to (and another album to make when we got back!). Is there something coming up in the next 6 months to a year that you can make plans for?

anssett

find a hobby. 

RachelG4625

Hi, 

I planned my wedding over 1 year with a planner and I felt this way 'BAD'. I had it for months it seemed like but I rationalized that it was because it was something that took up so much of my time, something I dreamed about, something that I talked about, something that I didn't think I could live without. I even was like "Maybe I will start my own wedding planning business" just to try and get the feeling back. 

We have been married almost two years in Oct. and I have the feeling back now. I have been planning our trip to Italy (2 weeks) and it has me over the moon excited. Something to talk about, etc. I am extremely Type A and if you are the same then we are probably more alike than you think. I hadn't finished with my Bachelor's degree yet before we got married so I started that back up. I did what the others suggested and started running around changing my name and updating things. You can find these checklists all over the web. I made sure everyone got Thank You cards from the wedding and I spent a lot of time making sure both sets of parents go their pictures/books, etc. I had my wedding attire preserved, bouquet preserved,  posted comments on all my vendors, returned/exchanged things we didn't like, and finally I ran out of steam and couldn't come up with anything else. 

Like I said, I went back to school. I finally finished in May and I was like what now...Yes I have a job. I threw myself into making my house a HOME. We bought a house before we got married and its huge. Great to grow in to but not so great with two people, at times one because he travels. So we needed to outfit it, accessorize it, glam it up both inside and out. This has redirected my attention greatly. Like I said now I am planning this trip for us and I am sure that when it's over I will redirect my attention again to something else, what IDK. Maybe a baby. :-)

Good luck honey. It does get better trust me.