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Looking Forward or Too Late
I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. In the last few months I have felt an emotional disconnect. This is seriously impacting our sex life. I still really enjoy the time we spend together but I'm struggling with the romantic connection.
Any suggestions on how to talk to him, reconnect, or is it too late?
Re: Looking Forward or Too Late
Looks like this is over.
Once it's gone it's gone. WHy do you wish to pursue a relationship that's gone?
I suspect, then, that the answer is that you're just not in love now, and therefore you should do the right thing and end the relationship.
it certainly couldn't hurt
If you weren't able to explain what was missing then I imagine you weren't truly honest about how you're feeling. And if you couldn't do that, then of course you never reached a solution.
I've been with my husband for 9 years and we've had our ups and downs when it comes to our sexual relationship. It happens. But you really need to be able to identify what's driving that wedge (for us it ran the gamut - job stress, family tension, disappointment in the other person, etc). You need to be honest with yourself and you need to be honest with him. Obviously it wasn't the case for us, but you might realize that you don't really love him or want to be with him on that intimate of a level.
It sounds like to me that you know in your heart that you don't see him as a romantic partner anymore, though you still like him as a person. That can be difficult to verbalize, especially if he hasn't really done anything wrong. But it is perfectly normal and fine for you to just not be into him anymore. Maybe you just need to admit it to yourself, and give yourself permission to move on.