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I want it more then my husband
My husband and I have been living together for 4 years and we are 23 year old no kids and well at first we would make love every day and slowly it has been decreasing now we only do it once or twice a week and well he says that he likes to wait cuz it feels better for him but I am the one suffering cuz I like doing it daily and I just want to know is that normal cuz I have checked his phone and facebook and email and he is not cheating so I don't know if his sex drice has just dropped or maybe he isn't truned on by me anymore I even wear sexy lingerie and in a few occasions he has said no baby but you look really hot
Re: I want it more then my husband
I'm on the same boat: I want it more than he does.
we've been married only 6 months, but he's slowing down. Although he's 7 years younger than me, he's not really into sex as other guys I've dated or even as much as I am into sex.
So, I take out my dildo that I've had before getting married, almost everyday and for about an hour each time, satisfy myself. Several weeks ago, I found out a good angle and the right force of rub. But I broke the vibrator part. So, I just use it as a dildo minus the vibration, but sometimes, it feels better than having sex with my unenthusiastic husband.
A Few days ago, I had a heart to heart talk with my husband about my needs, and listened to his needs as well. To my surprise, we had sex two consecutive days in a row, and that never happened before. Although it doesn't seem like a big deal to others, to me, I was astonished at how sensitive and considerate my husband was in listening and adjusting to my sexual needs.
i have heard that most men sexuality peak at around my husband's age, 34. So what's the deal? He's only satisfied with once or twice a week. Meanwhile, that would only satisfy me for a day: once or twice. I enjoy sex. I know I am at a sexual peak age:41. But I have enjoyed sex since 28, as much as I can and as many times a day. My husband thinks I'm not normal if I want it that much, though. Does anyone have any suggestions, advice to enlighten me on this?
Your data is not accurate, men reach their sexual peak at 18, and women reach theirs at 28.
You know what? It doesn't matter what the average sexual peak is, because people are individuals and have their own personal libido that is not necessarily dependent on age or any other factor. Thinking/saying that your spouse is not normal due to their high or low libido is not going to solve anything. Communication about how both partners can be satisfied is what is needed.
Ditto. Men peak at 18, or so it is theorized.
And it is theorized women peak at 41.
Everybody is different. I do not think the peaks are contiguous with those 2 age groups.
To the OP: Mismatched libidos or not, he owes it to you to meet you at least halfway.
Talk to him about your sex life; communication is needed. Let him know you want to have sex more with him --- and then leave the floor open for discussion.
Present it in a positive way: "We're so hot together and I'd love for us to be hotter. Let's have sex a lot more often."