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Getting married? You MUST be pregnant! mini-vent
Hi everyone,
So I've known my husband since elementary school. We moved in together and got serious when we were 23. Two years later when we got engaged, all I heard was "Congratulations! Are you pregnant?" and "When's the wedding?". We got married almost a year and a half later. I planned our wedding in under six months, so for a year I heard "When's the wedding?" followed by a sour face when I explained that we weren't planning it yet and that we were just enjoying our engagement. We had a photo booth at our wedding reception (one of the things everyone still raves about) and my husband's mother and my mother did this:
We've been married for just over six months now and I still hear baby/ grand-baby questions and remarks. I try to brush it off and explain that we'd like to buy a house first. I don't understand why everyone thinks we should be in such a hurry. What happened to "stay young while you can"? Thanks for listening! 
Re: Getting married? You MUST be pregnant! mini-vent
Get used to it!! DH and I have been married for three years (together for 5), and just bought our first house. Be prepared to get asked about a baby one your birthdays, anniversary, and every time you go on vacation; "Oh, you're going on a cruise sicne you're expecting a baby and won't be able to have fun soon?" Also, with each milestone, you'll get asked. For instance: when we upgraded to a 2-bedroom condo, when we bought our first *new* car, and when we bought the house.
It's so annoying!!!!
Congrats on your recent marriage by the way! I cant believe your moms did that! I see the humor in it but still.
Most people waited a year before asking us. We have been together just shy of years, married for 3 of them. Lots of people keep asking now that its been a few years and my DH and I are pretty sure we dont want any at all so wont people be surprised when no kids continue to show up, LOL. Def prepare for it and think of some crafty responses.
Thanks to everyone for the responses! ChrisnJay- what a beautiful furbaby! This is my baby Eclipse
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Cute!! Here is my baby, Evie!
thank you! Eclipse is so pretty!! we have a cat too. here are my two boys together. Ben is the dog and Sam is the cat
i just love that Evie and her name!
Is she still hanging out in your dining room?
Sort of... We put a futon in there and DH's guitar collection (he has 5). She meowed her head off for a few hours after we did that, but I walked in there with her and put her on the futon and said "it's still your room, now you just have a giant bed in here!" She's been sleeping on the futon and is still playing in there, but she stares at DH's guitars like "WHY are those things in here!?!"
Her name is Evie because I got her on christmas Eve- I think the name really fits her.
Your dog is HUGE! What kind is he?
Ben is a cane corso (aka italian mastiff)
WOW! He is huge. DH wants to get either a silver weimereiner (spelling??) or a great dane once we get the backyard fenced in. I wonder how Evie will react to THAT!
Evie is such a sweet name. I'm glad I used it on my kitty though, because DH doesn't like it...
As a kid i always wanted a great dane! Ben is much smaller than that. Too me he doesnt seem that big but most people say he is. He has a big head. He is currently about 95-100lbs at 13 months old, they can grow up to 2. His father was 130lbs and his mom was about 115, so we'll see where he stops. His height hasn't grown that much lately. If he stands on his hind legs he is just about as tall as me, i'm short at 5'1.5".
There will def be a big difference between a great dane and a weimereiner ( i cant spell it either). From size to temperament. Every weimer i knew was high strung.
Cane corso was going to be my guess! He is so handsome. Evie is so pretty too! We'd love to get a large dog (not great dane big though!) but we don't have the time, space, or yard for one; it just wouldn't be fair to the dog. DH loves german shepherds, I'm super interested in a "Blue Bay Shepherd".
P.S. I love that this thread turned to pets, they are such an important part of our families.
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thank you
i was going to say sorry we hijacked your post! hahaha I thought my DH would have wanted a shepherd but he wasnt into the long hair. Those are beautiful dogs.
haha, pets are family!! We can't have a dog with long hair or sheds a lot, because I am allergic to dogs. We still want one though! DH wants a big dog so he can play and wrestle with it. He grew up with greyhounds, but they are so timid and gentle, we are leaning towards a more "fun" dog. It will be at least a year before we get one... but we are still looking forward to it.
I am not 100% on board with a great dane because they have such a short life expectancy (8-12 years). I can't imagine getting so attached to them and then having them pass away so young... I guess we'll see what happens.
i totally push it on my two brothers and sister in laws. But they want children and everyone knows it. I dont want children.
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I was caught off guard and just said 'no' with a smile on my face, but after thinking about it and talking with my then fiance, now DH, about it, it really pissed me off. DH said, "You should have told her, 'no, I'm not following in your footsteps!'
God forbid we get engaged just because we love each other!
I think most newlyweds get this question a lot. Apparently the ONLY reason to get married is to immediately start having babies! As expected, my MIL asked right away. We've been married for almost two years now and I don't hear it much anymore (probably because DH's brother now has 5 kids and my sister just had her first). At first, when it was being asked a bunch, I used the advice I got on a Nest slideshow and just became very vague with my answers (things like "there's some things we want to accomplish first" or "we want to have some time to ourselves first"). It seemed to work in deflecting the question without giving them any kind of timeline to look forward to because, honestly, it's none of their business!
P.S. I have two fur babies, too!
When my husband & I went to tell his Mom that we were engaged the FIRST words out of her mouth were "I hope you know I want 4 more grandkids".
A little later but I HAVE to add my experience:
Yes I got all of those questions too! Especially since we got engaged in January and married in August. An 8 month engagement is TOTALLY because I'm pregnant and I don't want to be big in my wedding dress....
Another funny note, when we applied for our Marriage license, it came in an envelope a few days later. When we opened it up, there were a couple brochures saying "Congratulations".
No, these were celebratory remarks on getting married. It was celebratory remarks on being pregnant! And how I shouldn't drink on my wedding day because it is bad for the baby. Well I wasn't pregnant, but apparently the only reason you get married anymore is because you have a bun in the oven.