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ER Bill and Reading update
ER bill - I called the billing peeps last week. So, ex has H as guardian or something (guanter?) for their son. That's the bill they keep calling about, and will go on H's credit if it goes to collections. Since H is his guardian, I was able to change the address the bill was being sent. But ex is their daughter's guardian, so I can't do anything about that... but it will only affect the ex's credit not H's so I really don't care. Lady said since ex has sole custudy she needs to change this. I agree, but it won't happen until the court makes her... and we all know where we are at with that. H called ex and she said to sent it to her (I will be scanning it, emailing it to her and sending her a copy in the mail). She said she'll deal with it. Part of me would rather just pay it and pay less in CS until it's even. I don't TRUST her to pay it.
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Stepdaughter's reading - she's definitely struggling. She has her sight words down, but reading them is a different story. I had her on starfall.com playing, but if I'm not there, she'll just play and not read out loud, or just make up words to fit the pictures. She does the same with books.
SOOO I picked a book she liked and had her read it. I noted the words she struggled with (basically all non-sight words), and made flashcards. We worked 5 at a time, just a few minutes every few hours. When she learned all the flashcards, we reread the book. SO much better. And I noticed when she was really getting the flashcards her confidence went up and she was like yelling the words. Way better than when she was struggling and calling herself stupid. Oh we had a little talk about calling herself stupid, and I tried to emphasize how some things are easy (had her tell me what is easy for her, and she said painting!) and the things that are hard you have to work harder on.
The plan - I'm buying some first grade books. I'll be mailing her flashcards and her mama said she will help her go through them. Her incentive to doing them is when she's done and knows them, we will sent her the book it goes to. Cross your fingers it works! I have 6 books coming in from amazon now.
Re: ER Bill and Reading update
You are a great step-mom! Unfortunately, a lot of parents don't do what you are doing, so that's awesome! I think your plan with the flash cards and sending her the book is great, and hopefully her mom will keep up with it.
Sorry to hear about your struggles with the ER bills, but it sounds like you've got it figured out and hopefully she will start getting her shiit together soon.
ditto everything that ystaalenburg just said!
Hopefully, the ex will work with your stepdaughter on her reading when you're not around.
Sorry that you're still having issues with the ER bills, but I'm glad to hear that you have been able to make some progress on it.
I'm so happy to hear that you're helping your step daughter make improvements on her reading while she's with you guys and that you've got a plan in mind for continuing it while she's with her mom. That's awesome!