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breaking up w/ realtor (long)
We signed a 3 month contract with our current realtor back in May. Thus far, we have been completely unimpressed by her and are ready to jump ship. She hasn't been as aggressive as we'd like. She is intermittent with communication. Keeps sending us listings that are beyond our price point (I think working for the commission). Of the few houses that we've seen, we found most of them. I was ready to dump her weeks ago.
H just came around yesterday after the latest incident. I was looking at houses online and noticed one that we'd had an appointment to see a couple of weeks ago but it got cancelled because someone put an offer in on the house either that day or the day before (which pissed me off to no end because it took her days to even make the appointment). The listing is still shown as active. I happen to still have the link for Trend listing she had sent me. It also shows as active. I know that an offer may have fallen through. I just think that any realtor worth their salt would have been all over that, knowing we were interested. I became enraged (I may have a short fuse 
) and H is finally on board with dumping her.
My issue is this. She's a very close friend of his aunt's and his aunt's best friend, whom we are close with as well. How do I approach this without damaging any relationships? To me, this is a business decision and not a personal one. But I think some feelings are going to be hurt and I'd like to minimize the damage. If I told her the absolute truth, a lot of people might be upset with me. My thinking is just to go the "I don't think we're a good fit" route, but I really think she'll ask me why or put it on me. And if she puts it on me, I may not be able to keep a lid on why. And if this were just a random person, I would absolutely be honest and basically tell her I think she sucks but I don't think I can do that here. Plus I really want to be passive aggressive and email her, but I should probably call her right?
Also I should say for the record that I am fully aware that she will likely not agree to release us from the month left on the contract, but I'm so pissed off I have to try. WWYD?
Re: breaking up w/ realtor (long)
We aren't a good fit. We decided to step back from looking for now.
Who cares when she finds out you jumped ship. It will be your aunt's choice to tell her.
agreed. During this month, can you buy a house on your own without a realtor?
My little nuggets
Ugh I know you're right, I tend to overthink this kind of crap, get myself all worked up and then it amounts to nothing in the end, ha. I drafted an email and sent it to H, once he gives the thumbs up, I'm sending.
thanks for "listening"
If she isnt meeting your needs or expectations you are certainly able to fire her. Just so you know Buyer Agency Contracts are pretty much up to you to terminate she doesnt have to let you out. What you need to do is notify her in writing that you are ending the relationship. That will serve as proof that you ended it in case some type of legal issue creeps up later.
I would also be curious to know, did you tell her what your expectations were in terms of communications and follow up in the beginning? The reason I ask is that in my experience a lot of people do not outline what they expect in the beginning so the realtor doesnt know they are doing something wrong. I have been a Realtor for 10 years so I always ask people up front what they expect of me and what it is they want me to do for them.
I hope you will tell them you are ending the relationship rather than just work with someone else without notification just because that person will keep working for you and not getting paid. That is a frustrating situation even if they are in it by their own doing.
Update: she had a death in her family the day before I emailed her. I feel like a huge jerk. H and I didn't cross paths yesterday so we're going to sit down and discuss tonight, but I think we're going to terminate and move on.
Thanks again for the advice, gang!