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Career or baby
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I am currently and LPN in a local clinic, a stable job with stable hours but no room for growth unless into management-I DON'T WANT THAT. I just got married last month and decided not to apply to RN school this July as I didn't really put in time to put stuff together and wasn't really all that thrilled. I have gotten all my pre required classes done and have planned on gettnig my further degree,but this was all before I met my husband. I am debating applying to a virtual nursing program in October but this is where i'm torn. 1. All our hospitals are laying off so if I got my further liscense I may not be able to find a job. 2. I want a baby and me and my husband have talked about waiting a year school would put it off 1.5 to 2 years. 3. If I did go to school I would need some experience in my new area before going to part time work to be a SAHM. Just trying to feel out what other people in this situation may consider and do. Please and thank you
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Re: Career or baby
My opinion is that if you have to ask yourself whether or not to put off your career to have a baby, then you aren't ready to do so. Apply for RN school in the fall, and continue on. Finish your degree and get some experience under your belt.
BTW, there is a high demand for nurses right now. Just because one place may be laying off, doesn't mean all of them are.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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you found out yourself why there is none.
Hold your horses....wait a good year and a half or so before you even think of starting to conceive. Your marriage needs legs and that is why.
You dropped everything because a guy came into your life.
[looks at calendar]
That's funny...I thought I heard Elvis singing "Heartbreak Hotel." Thanks for moving us back into 1956.
Excuse me but because I plan to make the choice to be a SAHM and only work part time does not mean that is my opinion for everyone but that is my future goal so actually there is no move to 1956.
Ahh, the career or baby question.... I'm pretty sure everyone feels like this at some point!
I will say that in terms of furthering your education, if you see yourself wanting an RN position at any point in the future, now is probably the ideal time to throw yourself into it and just do it. The pre-reqs are done, everything is still fresh in your mind, it sounds like it won't take more than a year... once kids come along, you won't want the added stress of school. The year will go by quickly, and then you'll never have to wonder 'what if'. We've been married 2 years now, and we decided that although we are really excited for children to come along, we needed to complete any and all degrees we would want now, before kids, because we want to enjoy life when they get here, and not be studying in school at the same time; but also we don't want to feel "stuck" in our jobs, like there's no room for career advancement. So it'll probably be 3-4 years into the marriage that our first baby comes along, because my husband's still finishing up a graduate degree. And as long as your biological clock isn't ticking too loudly, there's nothing wrong with waiting awhile. We have gotten much stronger as a couple in the last year with it just being the two of us, and I feel much more secure as a couple/team.
This is my own opinion, not everyone else's... but I think it's great you want to be home with your babies. Besides the emotional benefit your whole family will receive, childcare costs a pretty penny these days so it's actually a very financially smart option to only work part-time when you're a mommy. That's what I'm planning to do too, by the way. I think it's ideal -- you get time with your baby, but still get time to be out in the working world with adults a couple times a week, and that will be helpful mentally, as well as financially. Also, if you have your RN, won't that mean a bit of a pay raise? That's nice too, especially if you're only part time.
Sorry this got so long. Wishing you the best!
I too am an LPN, have all my pre-reqs done. I never finished because I was single and could not find a job that would work around my school schedule.
Now, I'm married and have a great job making more hourly than a new RN. Again, they will not budge on the schedule even though I am part time. It is a really tough decision. A lot of time, money, and energy has gone into my education and I totally understand your situation.
To anyone who will listen, I would tell them education first. I wish I had done it earlier. While we're doing well now, anything can happen. It is always good to have a plan B. I would power through and put ttc off until school is over. Just my humble opinion.
Also, there are so many more opportunities as an RN. Homecare, case management, insurance case management, liaison...I could go on....you can even become an ultrasound tech with your RN and a little more training. All jobs you can do part time or per diem.
good luck!
Wow...chastising a woman for her choice to get married and stay home with children is not cool. It was her CHOICE, I'm assuming it was/is what she wants, and she is just asking a simple question about what career direction she should take when her ultimate goal is to raise her children. NOTHING is wrong with that. I don't think it's cool to shame other women for their decisions just because it doesn't fall in line with what you *think* women should be doing.
OP, I agree with previous posters that if you are battling with the idea of finishing your degrees or getting ready to start a family, that it probably means you should hold off on the baby. I'm going through the same thing right now.
H and I are newly weds I have a slight case of baby fever, but I know I want to get my master's degree and I was trying to decide how doable I think getting my master's would be while I have a family. I know many many women get advanced degrees while caring for and supporting a family, but I'm sure that it's a lot harder to do it that way than if you finished your schooling before the babies came. I think having your RN will be a good decision in the long run in case you and your husband ever want to make more money.
I vote Career.
Babies are overrated. I don't see what the fuss is about.