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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Is forgiveness earned???
in Married Life
Just having a think here about the F word. Forgiveness... for those thinking of another word that begins with F:) Just wanted to know what yall think? Is it earned??? When I am upset with my hubby, which I kinda am at this moment, how long will I take to move past it? Does he have to do anything to make me forgive him? Not so much looking for advice, but more so wondering what you guys do when you are blazing mad at the hubby in the area of forgiveness? Just to relate:)
Ida
Grab a cup of tea, and visit me on my blog:)
Newly Married??? Sister, let's relate!
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Re: Is forgiveness earned???
Trust is earned. You don't trust a random stranger right off, right? So if someone has done you wrong, why would you automatically trust that person again?
You can forgive, but that does not mean you forget. If you did, you wouldn't learn, move on and would repeat history, endangering yourself physcially or mentally over and over again.
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Depends on what it is. Pick your battles.
You keep inviting "visit me on my blog blah blah etcetera" and then if you try to,, you get a flag saying that it's marked private and Do you have an invitation?
Either make the blog public or take that tag out of your siggy.
I agree with what yall say. It all takes time...even learning how to disagree in a way that isn't harmful to the other.
I recently heard someone say that the process of earning trust is not a punishment given to the person for what they did but rather a process of rebuilding what had been destroyed.
Sorry about the blog issue...should be all fixed now, thanks for the heads up!
Ida
Grab a cup of tea, and visit me on my blog:)
Newly Married??? Sister, let's relate!
I agree with this. I have seen some people who hold grudges over their spouse for incredibly petty things. That, I don't really understand. Yes I am annoyed that DH will forget to, say, take out the trash, but I'm not going to harp on it. I'll get over it.
For bigger things, I think he needs to be actually sorry or show some remorse to be forgiven. Make amends, if that applies to the situation. The same is true for me of course. It goes both ways.