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Please help!
I'm 28 years old and I have been in a serious relationship with a man for 2 years that has no passion or sexual attraction towards me. He is 29 and I am his first serious relationship! I am a very sexual person and at first I thought maybe he just needed some time to adjust to having a woman in his life. I was wrong! I have pulled out all the tricks even talked about how I felt and he just gets defensive and acts like I'm some kind of sex addict! I don't need sex all the time but it is an important part of a relationship to me! And honestly it's not just the sex it's the passion it's the feeling u get when u feel your man want u! I don't get that from Him. I will say he is an amazing man otherwise he kisses me, holds my hand I know he loves me but I try to explain that passion is something different and he doesn't understand what I'm saying! I'm lonely, hurt, confused but mostly I just want to feel wanted. Whenever I try to bring it up we just fight and be doesn't talk to me about it. Makes me feel like my feelings don't matter. I also need to say that he sight of my naked body has never turned him on! He don't look at me the way most men look at there significant other. I have confided in a female friend and she asked me if I thought he was gay! My initial response was heck no. I then began to think about him never getting stimulated by seeing me naked or touching me and it honestly made me wonder! I need help
Re: Please help!
I'm 28 years old and I have been in a serious relationship with a man for 2 years that has no passion or sexual attraction towards me.
This guy sounds like a social, emotional and sexual misfit ---- this guy ain't for you. Do yourself a favor and move the heck on.
Why do you want a guy who doesn't want to have sex???
He would probably be perfect for some girl who is not sexual either.
You would be surprised how commonplace this is. I know of a guy who was 54 before he got his first girlfriend.
Your boyfriend is childish and trite: he argues instead of talking about the problem like an adult. Who the hell needs that?
Move on. Don't fish where the fishin' ain't good...and don't be a Charlotte York. Remember what happened to Charlotte and Trey (SATC).
He could be a guy with a very low sex drive or none at all, he could be socially awkward or maybe he is gay. Whatever it is:
He is not for you.
You won't change him into a raving sex maniac.
And as for the never had a serious relationship before: also common. Youd' be surprised why people never "got around" to having a serious relationship before.
Don't pursue this anymore. Say goodbye to this guy, pronto -- and above all, DO NOT plan on marrying him. YOu'll be stuck with the entire can of worms if you marry this guy.
Breakups are never easy and yeah, sometimes the timing is like that.
You are free and single and over 21, as the ole school expression used to go... say goodbye to this other guy posthaste. He's incompatible with you in every way.
So your saying I should stop seeing both of them? Is it to early? Your probably right!
no shes saying drop the bf who doesn't want sex and move on. Esp since you have found someone else! It's not fair to you to stay in a relationship with someone who isn't attracted to you and its not fair to him if you're seeing someone behind his back (even if its not to the point that you are "cheating")
break ups are hard but it seems like a no brainer at this point.
THis guy's stood you up, more or less and has left you high and dry -- and besides, you and he are not on the same page with everything. You've got your work cut out for you.
Find another guy who is into sex. it is as simple as that.
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You've got a self esteem issue. If you had enough self esteem, the second this relationship showed its real colors you'd have bidden that gent adieu and did so without any preamble.
Either that or you are quite sexually inexperienced, or you don't know yet what you really want in the bedroom.
At any rate, get rid of the guy who's a dead fish in bed. No amount of begging or sexy underwear is going to turn him into the raving sex maniac you want him to be.