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Anyone else feel this way?
Hey! So since I have been with my BF I have gotten so much negative comments about relationships.. everyone I come across always tells me that anything can happen at any moment and things can change, (I believe them but I always just stay positive). Like I get it, people change and things happen but I feel like people in general today are so quick to see the end of their relationship than look into a positive future. My BF and I always talk about the future and what we want with each other.. we always say marriage and kids because if we didn't want that with each other than why are we "wasting our time". He was also my first and will be my only. I never slept with anyone before him because I wasn't just going to give it up to give it up.. I get a lot of " youre only going to be with one person for the rest of your life? what about other good sex?" Honestly I smile and say hes the only one I want to have "snu" with and I am happy with my decison to wait till I knew it was right. I know everything in life is a learning experience, but when you know you know. I would just love if someone could come up with a great quote or saying to say back to the negative people! After all every relationship isn't roses and rainbows, life is all about the journey and I believe the bad days make us grow as a couple rather than degress.
Thanks!
xo[:)]
Re: Anyone else feel this way?
I can see both why you'd rather enjoy being happy and in love, and why others would advise you not to make final decisions based on limited experience. So I guess my advice is to do both: enjoy what's going on now, and don't rush into anything permanent.
Life is definitely about the journey, however the person we are at 20 is rarely the same as the person we are by 30...or 40. I suspect you're getting this advice from people who were once young and in-love and convinced they were going to be together forever, but then grew up and realized it wasn't the reality they really wanted. Maybe that involved a divorce for them? Or custody battle? Things they want to keep you from going through. My main point, be patient. Enjoy the journey. Don't make decisions that are really hard to reverse without gathering lots of info. Living together, marriage, moving, and babies are all harder (or impossible) to change your mind about later.
As to multiple sex partners? Who cares. I can't imagine life married to the first guy I had sex with. I also don't see it as 'giving up' anything, I see it as shared mutual pleasure. I've had a very pleasurable journey that led to my husband. It's not wrong to only have one sex partner, but don't stay because you 'gave it up' to him and now you can't ever 'have it back'.
Congrats on the honeymoon phase. Isn't it great!