Ring question

Unknown

Hi Ladies!!

i would love some input on the following...

Here I go!

I was just married last May (2012) to a wonderful wonderful man!! It's been over a year, and its been great.

This is however, my second marriage. I was married in 2006, and that marriage was a disaster. I knew 6 mos after the wedding that we were doomed, but I stayed for another year and half in hopes of making it work.  It didn't and I moved on, and that was the best decision I could have made.

My question is this, my ex husband couldn't afford an engagement ring when we got engaged. My mother was gracious enough to give us a family heirloom to use as the engagement ring. It is a stunning estate piece, and holds a sentimental family value (not from my ex).

My ex and I have been estranged for over 5 years. And I actually thought the ring was lost when I moved out of our place. But shockingly my mother just called me today to say that she found the ring.

Part of me wants to start wearing the ring on my right hand as an heirloom piece. But part of me thinks that's a bad idea. Like it might be a jinx.  My mother keeps saying, it's a family piece, you have every right to wear it. But I would love to hear some input.

 Thanks in advance!!  

 

TarponMonoxide

Not a bad idea at all.

Wear it in good health.

Unknown

Thanks!!! 

Appreciate your input!!!! ?? 

DeannaCW

Personally I'd feel weird about wearing my ring from an ex, but that only you can decide. If your husband takes issue though, then a definite no-no. What about sending it back to his mother, since it's a family piece?

chrisnjay05212010

i don't think its bad luck. does it remind you of your ex at all? if not, then go ahead, it is a family piece.  If it bothers you somewhat, is it possible to have the ring reset? Or would that take away from the heirloom part of it?

Unknown

Hi.

its a family piece from My family, not his. If it were from his family I would've sent it back years ago.

Its the only thing I have from that part of my family, so it is special to me for that reason.  

Unknown

It really doesn't remind me of him at all. I wore it during our engagement time, then after the wedding I just wore a band. 

Right after we split I would not have considered wearing it, but I am so far detached from him and that life we had together that it doesn't phase me one bit.

My DH understands it a family piece, he also understands what my feelings toward my ex are, so he is fine with it.

Thanks for the input!!!!  

arhayden1

I would not do this but can understand where your conflicted. Although I don't believe it is a jinx it is assosiated with your previous marriage. I think it would be a neat idea to hold on to it and save if for one of your children-if you plan to have any. They don't have any conection to the ring and that would keep the ring around longer.

NestCayla

arhayden1:

I would not do this but can understand where your conflicted. Although I don't believe it is a jinx it is assosiated with your previous marriage. I think it would be a neat idea to hold on to it and save if for one of your children-if you plan to have any. They don't have any conection to the ring and that would keep the ring around longer.

I like this idea ... to hold on to it to pass down to a child of yours! 

Erikan73

I saw wear it,  if it gives you good memories of your family. But if all you do is think of ex when you do wear it, then give it back to mom for safe keeping until there is another family member who it can be passed onto.

ohpagrl

I would totally wear it! I have an absolutely gorgeous engagement ring (I've been separated for years, not yet divorced), and I plan on getting it resized to wear on my right hand. I just haven't taken it in to get resized. 

 

Now, if I were in a serious relationship and he were upset by that, that would be different. But, that doesn't seem to be an issue in your case at all!