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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Total disclosure poll
I have just been perusing the boards for a while, and was very curious about how most couples handle technology in their relationship.
I have been married twice, and have been on both sides of the board.
My first husband was very protective over his cell phone/email, to an alarming extent.
My DH and I have total disclosure now. I have complete access to his phone/email/ everything. And the same goes for him with my phone/email/etc.
So I am just curious where most couples fall on this. It was a question that was addressed briefly while Dh and I were in ore marital classes, and I'd say more than half of the class looked terrified at the prospect of having to give their future spouse access to their accounts and such.
Re: Total disclosure poll
Same as others....we both have access to each other's stuff if we really wanted it, but neither if us sees a reason to go through emails and such.
Since we're on the subject, I remember at some point in these forums there was some discussion about having passcodes on mobile phones and one person mentioned that they were against this. Just a little PSA about why it is a very good idea to passcode protect your phone: I lost mine on my last trip to Spain and it was not protected with a code. The phone will not work in EU unless you are in wifi area, however, all of my info was on the phone so whoever found it has access to that...if I had it protected with a code, it would have been difficult for anyone to access the stuff on it. My new phone has a code now and I actually set it with the same one that my H has on his, that way if for some reason he needed access, he can and vice versa.
We know each others' passwords and user names on social media, phones, computers, and financials.
If I need DH to check my email for me, he does and vice versa.
We also know who the other is FB friends with and whether or not that includes some ex-BFs or GFs (it does for both of us).
DH also keeps an electronic journal on his computer that he writes in a few times per year. He knows I have access to it.
We are very open and I could honestly care less what he sees and he feels the same (there's nothing we have to hide).
I couldn't have said it better than this.
I know all of DH's passwords, emails, and log-ins, and he knows all of mine. But we don't snoop through each other's stuff. We have each others info "just in case" the other would need it for something.
If DH were to look through my phone, he wouldn't necessarily find anything bad, but maybe his feeling would be a little hurt over me venting to a friend of mine about something he said/did. But like I said, we don't actually go through each others phones/computers/tablets. That just seems very insecure.
I wouldn't be terrified if DH went through my stuff, but I would be hurt because to me that means there is a lack of trust.
I think as long as you have it because of trust and not in order to gain trust it's cool. No one should have to give their passwords. You just do because you trust each other. Just like a bank card pin number. You and your hubby may both know it because you both need access and both trust each other. So if it's a result of trust then, I think its cool!
Newly Married??? Sister, let's relate!