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Are you going after your dreams?
in Married Life
Hey ladies,
We all have dreams, things we want to accomplish and things we hope for. Are you pursuing these things? How has marriage affected your pursuit after your dreams? What does the DH think, is he involved?
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Re: Are you going after your dreams?
I've only been married a couple of weeks, but H and I have a 3 year old together. I was going to school to become an architect when we met, and having a child stopped me from that dream... well at least it has for now. School took a lot away from spending time with her since I had to travel an hour each way along with 30+ hours of homework, so I made the sacrifice and chose a secretarial career for the time being. I will never regret that decision.
FWIW, I do love my job, but it's something I do not see myself forever in. And with the incentives of my company paying for schooling, I will be able to go back in a year or so and go for my bachelor's degree in an engineering field.
But in regards to H, he supports any decision I make, as I do with him.
Yes. Getting divorced gave me the freedom to do that.
(XH was somewhat jealous of my career success and used to subtly undermine my self-confidence.)
Of course. If I weren't pursing them I'd be doing it wrong.
I already have my dream job. I worked really hard to get here (mostly before H). It can be stressful and H helps pamper me when I work hard. I do the same for him.
I have awesome hobbies. Earlier this year I did some community theater and H took care of the food/house the many many nights I had rehearsal. He fully supports me and loves the happy & energetic wife it gets him when I'm doing things I love. We share other hobbies and explore them together.
Now we're getting our ducks in a row to start a family, a long-held dream for both of us.
Yes.
I would say that I have more dreams and goals now than I did before I met H. He is extremely supportive and does everything he can to help me in whatever way I need.
My dream has always been to take over my mothers daycare. I have wanted to run the family daycare and allow her to retire since I hit middle school. Unfortunately H and I had to move just over an hour away to a private scool where he works.
H and I have decided to do everything in our power to fufill my next dream which is to be a mother and to stay home with our kids until they are school aged.
We have been paying off his loans as fast as we can and beefing up our savings account. We are on track to start TTC by Christmas 2014!
In the end it was better to give up my dream so H could have his. He is incredibly greatful for it and in a few years it will be my turn.
Love: March 2010 Marriage: July 2013 Debt Free: October 2014 TTC: May 2015
Yes I am going after my hobbies and dreams. My husband is very supportive and I am very supportive of his stuff as well. My husband is actually going back to school this fall. We are both excited for that. =]
Being married has given me more support and encouragement. It hasn't stopped me at all.
"A women who can kneel before the Lord can stand up to anything"