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Friends and Dog
This is more of a pet/human question because I've never had anyone behave like this in my house before. My husband has a friend he has known since grade school. We recently had a housewarming party and the friend and the friend's girlfriend were guests.
Our dog is a little untrained. He's still a puppy, he's newish to us from a shelter, and we are working on manners but he still gets uncontrollable around food so during dinner we crated him. Both of these guests yelled at us for crating him, saying we were being abusive and threatening to call the humane society. I thought it was stupid, rolled my eyes, and went about my evening.
Later, I catch the monster dog running away with a hand towel and I notice that he has frosting smeared all over his face. My husband comes running up saying that his friend and girlfriend have been busy feeding the dog cake, hot dogs, hamburgers, chips and dip, cookies, and pepper jack cheese in response to him being crated. I was pretty furious but they were leaving and I was a bit tipsy so I didn't pursue it.
Except, my dog had to go to the vet on Wednesday because he was still sick from all the food they gave him. The vet bill was $100 for the exam and meds and I know I'm being petty as hell but I want them to pay it since they fed him the food that made him sick. I fail to see how crating is evil but feeding him food that makes him sick is loving. I know not everyone agrees with crating but our dog is crated for very little time so 30 minutes during dinner was not abusive.
It goes without saying that they are not welcome at our house anymore, but should I let the bill go?
FYI, he's feeling much better now.
Re: Friends and Dog
I would be furious too, but I'd probably just pay the bill and not invite those friends over again. If it were $500 or something, I would definitely press the issue, but I'm sure it depends on your budget.
The obnoxious part is you were doing the responsible thing by putting your unruly pet away during the party, and feeding pets non-pet food IS really dangerous. What if they gave the dog onions, grapes, or other poisonous foods? That's ridiculous. And I'm personally not a huge dog fan, so I'm not crazy about other people's dogs jumping on me or bothering me as a guest, but similarly I have the good sense to put my cat away for the same reason when we have guests. You did the right thing, so I'm sorry that they did such a crappy thing!
i agree with mama-bear. Do you intend to maintain the friendship at all? I dont think it is worth the battle over the bill. It def sucks and I would probably make a point to the friends that they made your dog really sick but i wouldnt push the issue of the bill.
im happy to hear that your dog is feeling better!!!
1) You did the right thing by crating your pup during a party. YH's friend and his gf are psychos for thinking crate training = cruelty.
2) I'd have said "see ya!" as soon as anyone I'd invited into my home threatened to call the HS because I'd crated my dog for his own safety and everyone else's comfort.
3) I'd have followed those "friends" out to their car smacked them both upside their idiot heads for feeding my dog ANYTHING without my permission, whether it were doggie acceptable or not!
That being said, if YH is pissed off at his friend and wants the money, he can ask for it. And I'd never invite those people over to my house ever again. Ignorant azzholes!
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