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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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MommeyDivine - Hope today is better!
How are things on the birthday/wedding/family front? I hope today is easier for you!
Re: MommeyDivine - Hope today is better!
Thank you so much for caring. I cried last night because it is so stressful, I lost my mom 3 years ago and my dad 1 year ago. Last night they kept calling and I'm not talking just 2 family members I'm talking about many calling, so I stopped answering. This morning they called so I answered and they basically were saying during the time of the passing of my parents the whole family was there for me and now I'm being selfish.
I really want to know what is so selfish, it's my daughter not a friend of my daughter. I'm so confused because I feel like I need to please them but who more do I need to please then Kennedi(my daughter). I even asked if I can come to the reception after the b-day party and my aunt is like, No your not coming just to have fun. She tells me if you really ant to make it work cancel the party and I'll give you the refund and schedule Kennedi's b-day party in 3 weeks. This idea may sound good, but Kennedi is really looking foward to the party. All she talks about is her birthday party. My aunt goes on to tell me that non of my family will be there and don't expect any gifts from the family for Kennedi. If my parents were here I would feel ok about just going ahead with the b-day party because I know that is exactly what my mom would tell me to do but with both parents gone I don't want to lose the only family I have.
Sorry so long just venting and telling you guys what I can't tell anyone else.
Oh you poor thing! Do you really believe that if your parents were here, that they would want for you to keep the party for Kennedi? If so, then go with that...it's in your heart.
I totally agree with you on "how could you be selfish? it's YOUR dd not a friend's." I also don't understand how people, family especially, can throw being there for each other at time of mourning back at you. (am I speaking english? sorry for my jumbled thoughts)
It's not a game...we don't keep score. You know what I mean? I'm so sorry!
And another thing...no presents for Kennedi? WTF! Like she should be punished...these people need to get a grip!
Sorry, I've been off the computer the last few days.
I just got caught up.
Here's the thing.... I agree that if you do NOT go to the wedding there will be some bad blood for awhile.
However, it is RIDICULOUS to invite people to a WEDDING, TWO WEEKS before the wedding. WTF!!!!!
Hell no!!!!
You are NOT obligated to drop everything especially DD birthday for a 2 week notice!!
DH turned 30 last year, and I gave people a 3 month notice on his party so that people could make it.
Seriously??? 2 weeks notice on thanksgiving weekend. NO WAY!
That makes me mad.
I had an aquaintance give me a wedding invite TWO WEEKS before their wedding too. Dh and i actually didn't have plans that day, and I called to rsvp. When i called to rsvp, the bride was like... "oh really ? you want to come?" I then realized by her reaction that we got the invite because she wanted us just to give her a gift. That she waited until the absolute last minute to give us the invite, banking on the hope that we'd have plans and decline.. and just send a gift.
I was really upset. So instead of saying screw you we aren't coming, and not sending a gift. I insisted that we were coming.
She ended up having to pay a bunch extra to include us on her guest count and pay even more for our meal because we put them over their count. I know its kinda mean...
but why give an invite if you really dont want someone to come? We went and had a good time.
I know your problem is the exact opposite. I guess my point is do what YOU want to do, and all will be fine.
They seriously can't expect people to attend a wedding with a 2 week notice.
All I have to say is RUDE! and then to bring your young daughter into it by saying they are not going to by presents...what?
Oh Yeah and the fact that they would even mention your parents is beyond RUDE! Sometimes family can be ridiculous.
Mommey - I see both sides. BUT - family is family. I think its shady that they only have you 2 wks notice for the wedding - but I would rather piss of some kids/parents than piss off my family.
Is there anyway you could bump up her party and then do both? Maybe talk to a manager at build a bear and beg? I know it's not your burden - but you don't want an unhappy family giving you crap for the next 20 yrs
I am sorry you are going through this! ?Sometimes it is our family that hurts us the most! ?
Um hello 3 weeks after the 29th is like the week before x-mas!
If you are contemplating changing Kennedi's b-day party and they (your family) are willing to give you the $$ your are losing it may be worth it so your family doesn't have something to complain about forever. ?Maybe you can just take Kennedi that day and make a special bear.
I do agree that 2 weeks notice for a wedding is really rude!
Is Kennedi's party ?on her b-day? ?I am having my bday party that day too! ?I invited my friends like 2 weeks ago to give people time to get a sitter, etc... My b-day is the 28th!
Personally I would tell them all to kiss my A$$ for threatening no gifts for my kid! ?If they can't make it then it is OK, but don't take it out on Kennedi! ?If you don't do right by your kids, who are you supposed to do right by?