Complaint...

princess_shelly

I feel like complaining!!!

We have this big group of friends... ?One of the guys' b-day is a week before mine.

So I invite everyone to celebrate for my bday & Getting my license, on the 29th. ?I did this in the beginning of Nov. ?The Guy whose bday is the week before mine tells DH that they can't make it they are going to vegas. ?No worries.

Last weekend the Fi of that guy messages my DH that she wants to do a surprise party on the 22nd for the guy and if my DH can call everyone and invite them. ?

DH feels bad because he doesn't want to call them to come to this party and have them rank out on my party since it will be 2 weekends in a row. ?

I feel like this guy's FI kind of did it on purpose, because they never hang out with any of us anymore, they only want to the the no kids crowd, but now because they can't go to my thing they want to hang with the kids crowd and it seems like it is a last minute thing, she still hasn't confirmed with DH where this party is and what time it will be at. ?Hello it is Thursday night.

I feel like this girl doesn't even like me anyway, she only likes hanging out with my DH and her FI. ?We were at their house one night with Jacob & I told DH "we need to go it is Jacob's bedtime", she asked "didn't you guys come in separate cars?" ?WTF? ?I said no! ?She said oh too bad, it would be nice if Luis could stay! ?Whatever!!!

Maybe I am making a mountain out of a molehill. ?I haven't mentioned my feelings to DH, he already feels like the in between guy with the FI asking him to do all the calling. ?IF they were friends wouldn't she have their #, she has my number but who does she call? ?My DH. ?Whatever, I am kind of glad they like to hang with the no kids crowd.

We just don't have anything in common, and I don't consider her one of my friends, you all on here are closer to me than she is. ?I really don't care if she likes me or not it just irks me that this was planned after mine & inviting all the same people I invited, well I did invite some personal friends, but still, just grr ?. ?

I told DH well if they go to this party and not mine, whatever. ?The people that really want to be with me will be there. ?I won't stress over it, it is just a party anyway.

Thanks for letting me complain, I really just had to tell someone the way I feel, ?sorry if it is all jumbled.?

julnmatt

That sucks....I would tell him to tell her to call everyone and if she needs so-n-so's number you can give it to her (if that is OK).  Not your DHs responsibility.

mariavictoriax

Yeah, I'd probably do the same thing that Julie suggested.

princess_shelly

We'll see if DH can speak to the friends. ?I know he spoke to one guy, but it is not a high priority for him. ?He worked yesterday, today, and is working tomorrow. ?He works at the busiest station in the Valley and sometimes goes to 20+ calls in a 24 hr period. ?I don't think he has even spoken to her to find out where we are going. ?Who knows if we can even go, we are having problems getting a sitter.

tmp-535278437507318

WTH - did you take separate cars?  I'm really hung up on that and can't get past it.  I'd talk to DH and write her off my "list"...I'm being blunt and crude but is she worth the drama? 

G91705

I agree with Mia.  I can't get past the comment she made.

Also, I agree with Julie.  Have your DH give her all the numbers so she can call them.  It's so last minute too that I doubt all your friends will be able to make it.

And like you said, whoever wants to be with you to celebrate will be there no matter what.

2bBush

ditto that about the "separate cars."  What? does she have a crush on your H or something? How obnoxious. And ditto again about givng her the numbers and letting her call all the friends to this last minute party -why should you and DH do it?

princess_shelly

Thanks for all your input. ?Dh isn't calling anyone else. ?She spoke with him last night, and big plans for the night are renting a limo and bar hopping! ?OOH! ?What a great way to celebrate a 35th bday (yes the guy will be 35) ?DH told her to count us out of the Limo, we will show up at one of the places they will be at and leave early.

The only reason why any of us put up with her is because her FI is one of DH's closest friends. ?We used to go?traveling?with them a lot, not so much since Jacob was born, and she just doesn't get it.

If I didn't know my DH as well as I do her comment would have triggered insecure thought in me.?

Thanks for letting me complain I really needed it!