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Is this tacky? I think so!
It's my first week back and the first story suggestion my photog has for me is to do a feature profile about one RB's city councilmen, who has cancer/just finished treatment (I'm not sure how he's doing, I'd heard the news through the grapevine last month). Photog thought it would be a great, heartwarming holiday time story that he beat cancer.
I asked my editor about it, thinking a) we don't do personal profiles about people unless they are "bright lights" --do-gooder, non-profit sort of folks; and b) that's just inappropriate to ask him "hey, how's the cancer going?" But she thought it was a good idea! Let his district constituents know about how he's doing and that he's still on the job serving them. Plus, she said, he and his wife already gave it the ok (photog, when she ran into the wife recently, must have brought it up after they had a nice cry together about it)
Not to sound cold, but I think it's a horrid idea. I feel really uncomfortable asking a councilman about his cancer treatment; I think it's mean to do a "yay! he's better" story when so many people, people I know/knew, have not recovered well or survived their cancer treatments; and what if his cancer isn't gone? I mean, the guy could just drop dead right after we publish and I'd look like the a-hole who rubed salt in the open wound that he beat it.
Well, I have to write it, but I had to vent about it anyway. I guess I call him up and say "Hi Chris! How's the cancer? So how'd you find it, anyway? Did ya have a big fat gnarly lump or was it just fluke?" sheesh.
Re: Is this tacky? I think so!
he's already given his approval. ?and i don't think it's insensitive to those who are currently dealing with it - i like to think that it might give them hope and boost to get through their own treatments. ?
and i certainly hope that you can find a way to ask the questions without letting your own personal feelings show. ?be positive and upbeat - the man doesn't need any negativity right now.?
totally agree with Wanna.
My nephew, who was only 4 at the time he was diagnosed with ALL, was very open to discussing his diagnosis. He talked about death/ the idea of dying, his battle and what he wanted to do before he passed. Yeah, even at 4. My nephew is currently in remission but one never forgets....
You would be surprised how open people are when they are fighting for their lives. There is an inner strength that I find completely motivating & inspirational...and I think your piece could capture that, if you let it:)
GL.