South Jersey Nesties
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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Slow board
This board has been so slow lately!!!
Re: Slow board
Yesterday was really slow! I took a sick day from work and was excited to be able to nest without getting in trouble but no one was here.
I was super busy at work and also just taking a step back after the troll stuff. It kinda freaked me out!
Smiley,
Really, they were scared away? They all left? That's weird.....how do you know this?
Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
I respectfully disagree...
by your comment we apparently don't see eye to eye, but the nest is a place for me to get some sanity back or vent when I'm stressed out w/ life drama....so for me, it's not "just the internet" it's my retreat from "real life" drama.
So I'm sorry that it's just the internet to you....but it's probably that mentality that caused this board to go down the crapper....everyone forgot that we're not just typing into cyberspace, people with real feelings read what is said.....and everyone has different sensitivity levels that must have been offended somehow....but it doesn't matter b/c it's just the internet.
I guess since there is no face to face, we can be more brave in our opinions and what we say, which is kinda sad b/c politeness goes by the wasteside.
And go ahead and flame away. I've held my tongue long enough
(that was meant to be funny) 
Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
Scorpio, I'm not going to flame you at all. I understand where you're coming from and everyone is absolutely entitled to their own opinions. These boards are "an escape" of some sorts for me, as well. So I get it, I really do. I was lurking over here for a couple months before I actually started posting. Yeah, I was planning a wedding but I'm also at a different point in my life than most of the other girls were over on the knot (kids and whatnot).
What I don't get is why many girls on this board took it so personally that some dumb random troll was posting pages and pages of jibberish on 2 boards that most of them don't even post on themselves. There were a few girls who were called out and named personally, and I understand that they might be a little spooked that some weirdo is running around calling them out. As for the others, who cares? Really?
This is my mentality and where my statement "it's just the internet" is coming from...If you don't like someone, don't read their posts. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Because yeah, people do have different sensitivity levels. There have been plenty of times I've wanted to tell someone where to stick it or how stupid I think they are being, etc. but I don't because when it comes right down to it - it's just the internet - it's not going to effect my "real life" at all.
YOU SAID IT SISTER (SCORPIO)!!! I totally agree. Now that I have met alot of these girls IRL that I have shared alot of personal info with, it isnt "just the internet" it is a group of women who I consider my friends. I personally have been flamed more than once on this board for baring my soul and I GUARANTEE that 99% of the crap that was said to me, would have NEVER been said face to face.
Because people have the "just the internet" attitude, they forget that there are human beings behind these words and names and pictures and all concepts of being polite and courteous just go away. Call me sensitive or whatever, but this is the truth and this is exactly why there are tensions on the nest now.
Thanks for understanding my point of view. I wasn't talking about the trolls (it's an annoyance but not my concern), I stopped posting frequently way before that....I was just talking about the general nastyness I've noticed.
Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
I will chime in here. As one of the people who was named, I will admit that I got more and more creeped out the more I thought about it. I am the first person who is guilty of posting somewhat personal info on here bc it is an outlet for me, too. However, you never know what a crazy person is capble of. This person obviously had an issue enough to name me amongst others. It would be one thing if I actually knew what they were talking about, but I have no idea what their real reasoning/motivation is.Not knowing what their real reasoning is/was is what freaked me out.
I decided to not post for a couple days and I have deleted my bio, pictures, etc.
Anyways, not sure if that answers any questions or issues.
I agree. Meeting people IRL makes everyone a bit nicer and it is sometimes easy for people to hide behind computers and be mean/nasty to others. (I admit that I sometimes lurk on the maternity boards...they are so mean there!)
I would like to say to everyone on here that I am sorry if I ever was guilty of doing this. 6ft2, I know that there was a post about you when I first started posting on here that I participated in and shouldnt have. I am sorry if I ever made you or anyone on here feel uncomfortable about posting. That wasnt my intention and perhaps I did get caught up in the "behind a computer screen" mentality.
I do respect everyone on here and I am confident that we can move past this and someday laugh about the civil war that occured way back when on the nest
I guess it's just different for me since I HAVEN'T gone to any GTGs or met anyone on here IRL. This board is very cliquey. There is the clique that was here before and the clique within the new group that just came over from the knot. And there are a few of us, like me, who are just here floating around in between somewhere.
Not everyone is like that. I'm the one who said "it's just the internet" but when have you ever seen me say anything negative or nasty? Never. Because I know we are all human beings and there's no point to it. I don't have to be mean to people to feel better about myself. If I don't agree with you or I don't like you or I don't have anything nice to say, I keep quiet.
Krista, I understand how you're feeling about being named and that's why I was doing my best working with KA deleting all of the posts from the stupid troll and banning him over and over again. Do I really think you were harassing someone to the point her husband had to come on here and "defend" her? Absolutely not. Do I think it's the same guy that board has had issues with over and over again? Absolutely.
Geez...can't we all just get along?! We're allowed to express our opinions on here and I really don't think anyone was being nasty to anyone else. Yes, sensitivity levels differ, but you also have to take that into consideration when you read something. Maybe the other person didn't consider that you'd be offended because they wouldn't be offended. Alot of things cannot be interpreted through just words and sometimes things come out wrong.
I think that the veterans that have made the newbies feel quite uncomfortable on the boards by saying that things are 'different' since we came. No crap they're going to be different because there are different people on here. This is not YOUR board, it's EVERYONE's board. I think that alot of tension has been showing and it's what you're calling 'hostility' or 'meanness'.
I agree that meeting people IRL settles any fears people have, but we haven't had a joint GTG yet. Let's do that so we can put all of this BS to rest. Us newbies are really nice people and we're fun.
Flame, flame, flame away.
Agreed, which is why I think we need to be more careful here then IRL
I specifically remember that when each and every "new" nesties came here that just about every single current nestie welcomed them in their introductory post....how is that making someone feel unwelcome???
It wasn't until things that were posted here were posted on the knot and being critisized that "WE" felt things were "different" since "you" came.
We were welcoming until we realized that the sincerity of a united board was a hoax. Even then there was freindlyness until whatever happend recently blew out of porportion.
I and I never said certain people weren't welcome or that the board "belonged" to anyone....
Well said. Us "oldies" are fun too!
Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
Amen Kristen!
Anna, I STILL think your the funniest knottie/nestie...LOL
I also thik we should do a GTG with everyone. It can be like westside story...I guess it would be eastside though...And I call the newbies being the Jets..ha, there jackets were cooler:)
LOL! Liz you just gave Anna a run for her money on that award.
LOL and dress in period costume!!
Diagnosed with High FSH, low folical count, and absent anti mullerian count 08/11
***ding ding ding***
Hit the nail on the head with that one. When you cut and paste items from the nest to commentate on and then post them on the knot, it makes the "friendliness" very insincere.
1. Not a fan of westside story..This would somehow make nesties gang members. I prefer to re-enact Grease perhaps and I want to play Rizzo.
2. I have no clue what was cut and pasted on the knot. Please enlighten me.
If we re-enact Grease we will need to wait for a fair to come in. Everything is happy again after they graduate on the fair. However I give fair warning I can't hold a tune for anything! Doesn't stop me from trying!
Not sure what you are referring to, but sorry if it offended anyone. Although, I have c&p'ed many things I find funny/don't get from multiple boards (nat'l, my club board, etc) during my time on the knot, so I very well could have. Again, I apoligize if I hurt anyone's feelings. It was never my intention and was immature on my part.
Alright, off to an awful conference call I have been dreading.
The only thing I can ever recall being C&P from here to there was when the crap was coming down on you for TTC. And I have to say, I give you a lot of credit and think you have a lot of balls for baring your soul the way you do, taking the heat the way you take it, and always keeping yourself together about it.
However, that was MONTHS ago, and pretty sure way before most of us migrated over here for good. Maybe that should have been brought up with thos knotties and dealt with right from the get-go if there was so much animosity. Just saying.