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So frustrated

When we started TTC we were excited and looking forward to everything, quickly it has become frustrating and heartbreaking month after month. We have family asking all the time if we have got a positive yet. I am beginning to feel like I am failing my husband and family. I thought this was suppose to be a "happy time".
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  • Ditto @panderp
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • Yup. One of the reasons my DH and I decided to keep ttc to ourselves for a long time

    TTC since May 2010. DX Unexplained IF.  IUI #1 in August 2012. Clomid, Menopur plus Ovidrel. BFN.  IUI #2 in September 2012.  Clomid, Menopur plus Ovidrel.  BFN. IUI #3 in October 2012. BFN.  IVF in April/May 2013: BFP.  Due February 2, 2014 Thank you God!

     

  • And let me guess...you've been TTC for a grand total of 2 or 3 months?

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  • Aimothy said:
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    still trying for that unicorn badge, huh?
  • I'm just giving her the magic of the unicorn so she can get pregnant and not feel like a disappointment anymore.

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  • @aimothy, that's so very thoughtful of you. lol
  • we have been ttc for 15 months now

  • I'm sorry.  As time goes by it does get worse and worse until you end up ugly crying on the bathroom floor every month.  I know the feeling, lots of us here do.  Have you been to the RE to get tested? 

    We waited 2 years before going to the RE.  Once I did the doc told me I have a 1% chance of having a kid on my own.  My situation is rare but I highly recommend you go get tested if you haven't already. 

    Good luck. 

      

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  • Everything that @LittleLady77 said. We get a lot of women here who complain that they haven't had success when they've only been trying for a few months. I agree that you should check into testing if you haven't done it. I have been TTC for 13 months and have an appointment to see about testing on September 6th. Good luck to you!

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    EDD: June 25, 2014
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  • Oh hi, nice to meet you.
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    February 2013: IUI #1 = BFN 
    October 2013: We made the decision to stop TTC and live without children.

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  • And let me guess...you've been TTC for a grand total of 2 or 3 months?

    Way to be welcoming. Way to keep it classy.
  • MH1006 said:
    And let me guess...you've been TTC for a grand total of 2 or 3 months?
    Way to be welcoming. Way to keep it classy.

    And who are you? It's not the like OP intro'd and told us her whole story. The majority of people who come on here and say this have only been trying a few months, and it's frustrating for those of us that have been giving support on this board for more than a year and have seen everything these ladies have been through with nothing to show for it. OP - we definitely understand where you're coming from, but if you had lurked a bit before posting you would have realized its wize to tell us about yourself first. I'm sorry your going through this, but definitely take the other's advice.
  • islandmonkey8islandmonkey8 member
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    edited August 2013
    8-> You're right. We need to class up this board! That's our problem! ................. B-) Better now! Right, @mh1006?
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

  • Hey. I'm as classy as they come. Did you SEE the leader board over there?

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  • I know @aimothy I just don't think @mh1006 is seeing our true classiness. image
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
    image
    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

  • until you end up ugly crying on the bathroom floor every month. 

      
    Were you peeking in my window last night? Ha!

    Lovepup, I'm sorry you find yourself here in this situation. I honestly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I recommend seeing an RE and having the testing done.
    In the meantime, there are lots of things you can do to feel better emotionally. Around the year mark I picked up some self-help books and joined this board. These ladies are very supportive. 
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
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  • Definitely what other people said. Get tested and see if there is anything that are causing problems with conceiving. The ladies here are very open, honest, and supportive. We would love to know more about you and your story. Feel free to tell us about yourself.
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  • Same here and sometimes I just want to look people in their eyes and say well we did get pregnant but had a miscarriage. Just to make them speechless and they will stop asking.
  • I made an appointment got the test result, and we will be adopting. I think i have managed the ugly cry at least once a day since I got the results back.
  • I made an appointment got the test result, and we will be adopting. I think i have managed the ugly cry at least once a day since I got the results back.
  • Do you mind sharing some more information on what the test results indicated? The decision to do fertility treatments vs adoption is a deeply personal one, I just think there are others besides myself who might be interested in the whole story, but only if you are comfortable sharing it.

    I wish you peace and strength in your decision going forward.
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    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
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  • GoodWolfGoodWolf member
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    edited September 2013
    lovepup said:

    I made an appointment got the test result, and we will be adopting. I think i have managed the ugly cry at least once a day since I got the results back.

    I'm so sorry about your results. What was your diagnosis, if you don't mind me asking?

    I hope that you and your H can find strength in whatever path you take next.
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    TTC September 2013 | BFP 11/21/13 | Chart | EDD 8/3/14 | It's a girl! 

    DD born at 42 weeks 1 day | 8/18/14 5:33am | 8lbs 4oz 20.25in of perfection!

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  • Good luck to you.
    I know adoption wasn't the path you expected to follow, but adoption stories are beautiful. I wish you the best.
    IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
    IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
    FET - BFN
    FET - BFN
    Switched clinics
    IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
    FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
    Baby Boy born July 2015

  • We found out that I have cervical cancer and it is to far gone, they need to remove everything
    :(
  • lovepup said:
    We found out that I have cervical cancer and it is to far gone, they need to remove everything
    :(
    I am sorry.

    Did you just find out today? how did you go from TTC to cancer and removing "everything" in just one day? It seems odd to me. 
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  • GoodWolfGoodWolf member
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    edited September 2013
    cinderin said:


    lovepup said:

    We found out that I have cervical cancer and it is to far gone, they need to remove everything
    :(

    Quote:

    I am sorry.

    Did you just find out today? how did you go from TTC to cancer and removing "everything" in just one day? It seems odd to me. 


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    @cinderin OP was August 9th.
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