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mandi12
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dh living in the garage....
i caught him talking to other women before but this time was worse. bad enough that im trying to figure out if divorce is right for us. were seeing a marriage counselor and trying to figure out what to do but in the mean time i cant live with him. i told him i need space and we cant live together right now bc we just cant get along. its pretty bad between us. i really think we need to live apart for at least a few months to work on some major relationship issues without chores and little pet peeves getting in the way. he slept in his car for 2 days because he refuses to go to his parents. i found a room for rent and set up a visit to check it out but he refused. i would go live with my mom for a bit but we have 2 dogs and a kid together so i think it makes more sense for him to leave. since hes refusing to live anywhere but home i decided to convert the garage to a makeshift apt. i set it up like a studio apt. the only thing thats missing is plumbing. hes gotta come in the house to use the bathroom. i put a little effort into it just to see if he'd go for it. so far hes stayed there 2 nights. so im willing to fix it up a little more and make it really livable for him but my mom is giving me grief about having my husband sleep in a garage so id kinda like a strangers opinion on this... i was, and still am, willing to find him a room to rent but he just wont go for it!
Re: dh living in the garage....
He needs to GO, period!
Who cares where he goes and with who???
Tell him he needs to go. Change the locks on everything and make sure he can't get back in -- and file for divorce. Get rid of this cheating bum once and for all.
Very little kids can sense when something is wrong.
For the sake of your child, get away from this bum --- if you stay with him, your child will get the idea that it is fine to treat a woman like a doormat --- that's what you are, you've proven to T in your post that you are indeed a doormat for this bum; making it nice and comfy and letting him stay in the garage...GREAT --- and your child will grow up thinking that this kind of "relationship" that you and your H have is the one to have, once he or she is married.
His father is undependable, has no respect for you, has zero character and is a liar.
Want this loser as an example of a "father figure" for your child?
Then by all means, do not divorce this guy.
You know the rest.